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Edit1: some thoughts based on comments. I was diagnosed with low vitamin D a few months ago but took bills. Maybe a month ago I ran out. I thought getting outside more recently was enough. You all inspired me to be more serious about it. Got my vitamin D3 and b12 pills.

Also, I noticed the two days I felt so tired I slept later and had alcohol too late in the night. One drink but around 12am. I think not just sleep quantity but when I sleep and quality matter.

Will aim to take my pills, not drink after 8-9pm if I drink, and sleep before 11pm.

Thanks for all the advice :)

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 21 hours ago

How are your iron levels and blood pressure? Sometimes, when you're feeling tired all the time, it can be your body trying to tell you something. If you're sleeping well and you still feel tired, there's no harm in making an appointment with your doctor!

[–] [email protected] 5 points 22 hours ago

I quit smoking entirely and drinking except on special occasions, cut "empty" calories (from drinks and sugar) out of my diet, and adjusted my routines so I'm now forced to walk at least 5 miles a day (usually more) just to get to work and run my errands.

Basically a 180 degree lifestyle change, but I was lumbering half-asleep towards an early grave, so it had to be done.

Now I feel wide awake, full of energy and optimistic for the first time in 20 years.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 18 hours ago

Sleeping is good but sometimes just laying down stops my body from aching and feeling tired

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 day ago

If you're already getting enough sleep then I'd actually recommend exercise. Just two or three times a week, work up a good sweat for thirty minutes. Don't best yourself up if you forget or don't do it for any reason, just try again the next time.

[–] Hikermick 2 points 19 hours ago

Ask a doctor. Don't ask for medical advice from strangers on the internet

[–] friend_of_satan 2 points 20 hours ago

Try the low fodmap diet for a week. When I did it, every day felt amazingly better than the last, and it had a positive impact on my health even when I went back to eating what I had previously been eating.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Verify your sleep habits and that you're actually sleeping through the night. Disturbed sleep really messes with the cycles, so you don't get proper sleep. If you snore, that may be an indication of apnea, which can really mess with sleep.

Take a look at your diet, and eating schedule. If either are inconsistent, it can affect quality of sleep.

If you drink soda, (or any bottled drinks), work on changing that. Between the sugar and caffeine they can really mess with you in so many ways when consumed regularly.

This is a hard one - pay attention to (and respect) your sleep gate. I've struggled with this my whole life. When you body tells you it's sleepy, listen, and go to bed. I know, it can be tough. But overriding your sleep gate can really mess with your sleep schedule.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

When you body tells you it’s sleepy, listen, and go to bed.

If I go to nap for 10 minutes at 12:00 and then at 17:00, the next day I'm guaranteed to be sleepy both at 12:00 and 17:00. That's how circadian rhythms adjust themselves. The only way to not be sleepy at 12:00 and 17:00 on further days is to overcome sleepiness and NOT give in.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 22 hours ago

I dunno, I occasionally have a mid day nap, but not often. Never had a problem like that. Definitely varies person to person though

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Yeah, my first thought was sleep apnea. If OP sleeps alone, there are phone apps that will record and analyze the sounds you make through the night. This can be a good precursor to getting a doctor's opinion.

[–] sunbrrnslapper 12 points 1 day ago

Go to the doctor. Advocate for yourself. Make them take you seriously. I've been extra tired for a couple years and it turns out I have a few autoimmune diseases.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

Vitamin D3, B6, B12 and Omega-3 fatty acids supplementation helps a bit but I do have autoimmune disease so ymmv. Do yourself a favour and get D3 level checked at least.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's good to talk to a doctor about this kind of thing, especially as you get older. It's usually nothing, but it might be a vitamin deficiency or something. A good family practitioner will know what questions to ask you.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago

Yep. This is the right advice. Tired all the time’ is a super common condition to present to your doctor. It’s a symptom of very many things, for my last time I went with this condition it turned out to be a vitamin D deficiency.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Don't sleep (yuk yuk yuk) on this. Get blood tests. Mine was cancer.

If you also have night sweats and are constantly tired?

Get checked now. Don't wait.

Another common symptom is swollen or "hot" lymph nodes. (back of neck, under armpits, etc)

[–] xylogx 2 points 1 day ago

Exercise - getting regular exercise makes it easier to sleep

Nutrition - B12, Vitamin D, Iron, Potassium are some if the usual suspects but there are more

Sleep - get 8 hours

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Have your B12 levels checked. (Don't assume you have a B-vitamin shortage, GET IT TESTED.)

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Fully support this. I've heard for years that "B12 deficiency is uncommon with a western diet," and yet, it happened to me.

I stayed exhausted, lost a ton of weight, and had terrible anxiety.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

B12 is prevalent in the diet, but not everybody has the so-called "intrinsic factor" that permits the body to actually process it. If you lack it it's very difficult to get enough B12 no matter what you eat. (Ask me how I know…)

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Depression?

[–] inb4_FoundTheVegan 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Talk to your doctor, especially if the people you sleep next to have talked about loud snoring.

Long story short, I am using a CPAP machine now and it's amazing how energerized I feel after waking up.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Got a CPAP to treat my sleep apnea. Easy top ten thing I've fone for myself. It took about 6 months to get use to the mask, but it was definitely worth it!

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

Hah was coming here to say basically this: if you're always tired after sleeping, go get a sleep study. If you do have sleep apnea, absolutely nothing short of medical intervention will make a meaningful difference, and it's an easy place to start.

[–] KnightontheSun 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Get more sleep, exercise on the regular and stop eating sugar.

I still don't get enough sleep, but I am at least getting more than I used to (~7hrs). I exercise regularly, but it isn't as rigorous as some. Just doing something helps heaps. Cutting out sugar evened out my energy swings a bunch. I also lost a chunk of weight quickly when I did so.

I am no healthologist, but doing the above (and maybe eating better if you are inclined) should get you to feeling better. Worth a shot, no?

[–] NJSpradlin 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Regularly healthy habits like mentioned here really help, but also drinking (alcohol). There are so many reasons why it can negatively impact your health and energy. If you’re drinking a lot, really take a moment to ask yourself if you can take a break to see if it is what was negatively impacting you. Try 3 months and see if you can see the difference. Either way, if so or not, try another 3, then another 3, and then keep going. Never look back.

[–] GrymEdm 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Have you always felt tired or is this a new thing?

If you've always had trouble then you may have a chronotype that is set to differ from your daily routine. Research suggests it's heavily influenced by genetics. Unfortunately I'm not sure what to do about it if that's the case since the world is designed to run on 9-to-5 with no regard for those that don't fit.

If it's new, then think back to when you weren't tired and what has changed since then. Changes in diet, sleep habits, weight, stress, stopping working out and more can all affect sleep quality.

[–] taiyang 3 points 1 day ago

I think this is/was my issue. I thrived once I got to go to college with mostly afternoon classes. I'm back in a rut because of kids waking me at 7am, though. Noon is where it's at for getting up!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

Check your blood sugar. Being tired all the time is a symptom of diabetes. So is weight loss, bad vision.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Voted to fire the asshole in charge of this reality, felt mildly better for a while. Then he came back, and I'm more exhausted than ever.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Why_We_Sleep

This is a really excellent book on the subject. It's in the normal places 🏴‍☠️