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[–] [email protected] 169 points 6 months ago (6 children)

Guy looks completely normal.

[–] [email protected] 95 points 6 months ago (14 children)

Honestly, most "ugly" people can be reasonably attractive if they get in shape, eat healthily (especially in a way that clears up their skin) and style themselves (clothes, hair, etc) in a way that suits them. Plus finding good angles and lighting for photos/videos, and building up some confidence and charisma for in-person interactions. Those things aren't necessarily easy and they take patience and commitment, but most people can easily go up a few points on an attractiveness/10 scale if they manage them.

[–] [email protected] 27 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

That sounds like a lot of work. I'm tryna win the Powerball instead...

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[–] [email protected] 83 points 6 months ago

This. Hes not fucking ugly, thats the takeaway here lol

[–] [email protected] 20 points 6 months ago

Yeah, he looks like an average nerdy type guy. Not the best but also not the worst thing in the world. There's plenty of people who are into that type.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Most people do, they are just comparing themselves with models, celebs or influencers, people that earn a living out of being pretty.

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[–] EdibleFriend 13 points 6 months ago

For some reason I read that as woman who talked about being ugly? And then I looked and I was like... Yeah I get it that looks like a dude.

He is extremely normal and average looking.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

I think if he had gotten braces for his overbite and a nicer pair of glasses before that pic on the left, there wouldnt be anything to really point out at all yeah.

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[–] [email protected] 81 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (7 children)

There's a Reddit community I used to visit now and then that was for ugly people. It was so toxic and hateful. These people literally believe that they can never be happy or have a relationship because they think they're ugly - it's their entire identity. I worry that many outcasts fall into this trap during their formative years and it warps their view of the world like the gentleman in the video.

I think that once they get out into the real world, most folks find that looks don't matter as much as lifestyle, personality, and compatible morals.

[–] ThatWeirdGuy1001 66 points 6 months ago (7 children)

I didn't think I was ugly because I thought I was ugly. I thought I was ugly because no one wanted anything to do with me for reasons I couldn't comprehend.

I also noticed how "pretty" people didn't have anywhere near as hard of a time socializing as I did. They were allowed to have bad personalities. Even if I was as kind and helpful as I could possibly be I'd never be treated the same way as a "pretty" person would.

[–] Crashumbc 47 points 6 months ago (2 children)

It's one of the ugly truths of human existence, that most people won't admit.

"Looks" absolutely play a large role in inter-human relationships. But since it carries a lot of unpleasant things most people don't want to admit, they either ignore it, or outright lie about it to make themselves feel better.

The research has been done "pretty" people earn more, get more promotions, and are generally more successful at life.

Not to say your life is over if you're not pretty. But there is a clear advantage.

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[–] [email protected] 14 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

The thing to focus on is that there are many different kinds of people in the world. I grew up with a disability, and it didn't take me long to figure out that there are people you'll meet who just hate you for not being what they consider to be "normal." There's nothing you can do - they're just going to hate you. But, I eventually found that there are also people who would never dream of doing such a thing, and will treat you neutrally until they get to know you, and will treat you well after that if you treat them well.

Yes, the assholes of the world will always be there, and they'll make you feel like shit, but the more you can dismiss them as simply being judgemental assholes who know nothing about you, the more you'll be able to see all the people who will treat you fairly. Sure, if you've got a terrible personality, then even those people will want to have nothing to do with you, but if you control the things you can control, there are a lot of people in the world who will see that and think well of you for it.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

When I was young, I wanted to think of women in a way that I could look beyond typical attractiveness. I made a point to find something about everyone. It soon became apparent that everyone is beautiful in a way. Sometimes it's not a facial feature but there's always something. And I started to find a lot of women sexy even if I wasn't really sexually attracted to them. As life has gone on, it's been interesting to me how someone that might not be very pretty becomes hot as all be because of their talent or skills.

I always thought I was ugly but women always found me attractive. It was a hard thing to accept.

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[–] rsuri 59 points 6 months ago (1 children)

I mean the guy isn't ugly, he just has the dumbest haircut I've ever seen

[–] Son_of_dad 23 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Yeah he just wasn't trying. A little facial hair, better haircut, a good shower, nothing wrong there

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[–] [email protected] 59 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Moral of the story: If you are ugly and there's a youtube comments chance to get laid, you take it(even if they have a furry profile photo.)

[–] [email protected] 33 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Especially if they have a furry profile picture.

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[–] [email protected] 20 points 6 months ago

even if they have a furry profile photo

I rather stay single.

[–] RBWells 53 points 6 months ago (32 children)

I used to work with two guys I called "Tall Todd" and "Tall Paul". Both were really smart and part of our IT department. Both in shape-ish, skinny, very tall.

Paul was conventionally hot - his side job was modeling, he made money at it and I did once unexpectedly see him on a national advertisement. Hot, you understand? He was nice, friendly, I wasn't attracted to him but could see he was physically really good looking, and was outgoing and pleasant, creative guy, good Halloween costumes.

Tall Todd wasn't good looking like that, and had the additional baggage of being named Todd, but had this way of existing in the world that was just so comfortable and made you feel comfortable. I think when people say confidence this is what they mean - not cockiness but this self acceptance. He was just so attractive without being physically attractive - he wasn't ugly exactly but unremarkable in looks. But goodness he was attractive in real life. Magnetic.

I do not know how people get that sort of confidence but it's not by being really good looking.

[–] CookieOfFortune 39 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Being tall is like 75% of being physically attractive according to most surveys.

[–] FordBeeblebrox 19 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

If you’re over 6’ the “how tall are you” is either the first or second question on every date along with “what do you do for work”

It’s kinda sad how predictable we can be as animals

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[–] [email protected] 44 points 6 months ago (14 children)

Now try being an ugly woman

[–] [email protected] 18 points 6 months ago

You just wanna do it on easy mode or what?

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[–] [email protected] 33 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Women out there are still complaining they can find a bf when all they have to do is say something vaguely nice to a guy and he’ll marry you.

[–] lady_maria 50 points 6 months ago (16 children)

eh... women are mostly complaining because they struggle to find men they'd want to date, not because they think men won't date them.

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[–] lath 28 points 6 months ago (1 children)

This guy different from that guy who married a comment girl that only wanted benefits from his citizenship and divorced him like two months in?

[–] [email protected] 21 points 6 months ago (1 children)

If that’s what actually happened she likely fucked herself over.

Most countries require years of history before citizenship is granted, and if you divorce before that (without “cause” like abuse) you’re not getting benefits. And if it comes out that it was all for citizenship/visa (ex. green card marriage) you get yourself on a list for trying to defraud the government and can’t return. Not to mention the fines and potential jail time.

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[–] [email protected] 27 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (2 children)

He's not even ugly, he just needs a better haircut and a tan lol

[–] GeoGio7 26 points 6 months ago (5 children)

Haircut sure, tan tho?? What are you 45? He also needed some different glasses and maybe hit the gym more. I hate how that makes me sound haha

[–] Linkerbaan 13 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Hitting the gym and a little more thought into his dressing?

What are you a womanizer red pill guru?! Next thing you know this guy is spinning 5 plates of spaghetti.

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[–] gmtom 27 points 6 months ago (4 children)

Damn bro even the "ugly" guys have more luck than me :(

[–] [email protected] 22 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (14 children)

I mean she found him cute so he wasn't actually ugly.

I on the other hand get "oh, you looked better from far away." You want ugly I can show you ugly! Lmao

Edit: I'd "love" to gross you all out with my picture, but I value being at least somewhat anonymous so I don't want to link a picture to my username lol

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[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 months ago (4 children)

That's because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The big point is that you need to get out there, take risks, ask a girl or guy, sometimes get a date, sometimes get rejected.. you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

If you really are out there, go to hobby clubs, be it stamp collection or a gymnasium, or a bar, go places, go meet people. I can't talk for you of course but in my experience most people with the "nobody wants me!" problem never go out. How is anyone to like you if nobody knows you exist?

It's like being a website. Get your ass on google, Facebook, Reddit, whatever. If nobody can find your site, your site may as well not exist.

And just to be clear: Being rejected sucks. But it's part of life and you move on. Don't try to date Ana de Armas right away, and complain that no girl wants you. Date normal guys and or gals, ideally with People that share your likes and values. Don't settle for the first person who you date, find out what you like, find out what you hate but FFS, find out! Go out, do something, don't just sit inside.

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[–] BlackNo1 26 points 6 months ago (13 children)

most “ugly” people put themselves into a box. take care of yourself, wash your face, brush your teeth, eat somewhat decently, put minimal effort into your appearance, and have a speck of self confidence and you can change your world.

I know it can be daunting especially if you have legitimate mental health issues that affect how you view yourself but trust me theres very few “ugly” looking people in this world and most of them still make it work by having a good decent personality.

Most people are ugly because they have a ugly personality.

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[–] [email protected] 19 points 6 months ago (7 children)

I must be uglier than that guy because no one has ever said anything nice about me when I share pics. :(

[–] [email protected] 29 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Have you tried making a video reaching 20m views?

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[–] FlashMobOfOne 17 points 6 months ago

Being ugly is really fucking hard, until you go full Tyrion and wear it like armor.

[–] RayOfSunlight 15 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Not every dude has this luck

[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 months ago (3 children)

Sorta disagree. Honesty and respect really mean a lot to people most just can't figure out how to express it

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[–] someacnt_ 14 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

One posts about experience of being ugly

Look into it

Freaking average

Lmao, ffs. Are people teasing us who really struggle in day-to-day life?

[–] dezmd 12 points 6 months ago

Self Confidence.

You can be or feel ugly, skinny, fat, short, tall, average, and even stupid, but if you have self confidence, you will overcome and adapt whether shortcomings are self perceptions or others' initial perceptions of you.

That said, don't abuse this superpower, because being an asshole is the real ugly.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 6 months ago

Best game of chicken player of the world

[–] [email protected] 11 points 6 months ago

Rizzonometry 101

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