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Resources:

Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.

Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en

StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/

Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/

[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map

[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination

[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/

[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/

[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/

[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org

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I'm curious about the makeup of this community. Might make a graph later.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

I'm a trans woman.

[–] BassaForte 5 points 3 months ago

Started as non-binary / bigender trans-fem, but now just Demigirl / trans-fem.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Didn't know there was gonna be a chart :o Kinda wanna buff up that enby slice but the transfem green is pretty close to my colour soooo...

Femby? 😅

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

It's enby, and definitely not solid.

Now, it almost never feels fluid. I spend weeks at a time thinking "Yeah, I feel I'm mostly a man, breaking out of norms just makes me feel free, and I wanna be strong like all those enbies I admire". And then one month later I see myself equally genuinely thinking "I'm a trans fem~ish, and I wish I could be pretty like all those women I admire."

And it's like I don't emotionally "remember" the other state. Each state is my entire reality while in it.

But consciously, I remember having been through this, not just now with gender, but some years ago with sexuality as well.

So yeah. It's a little bit of everything, all of the time.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

Trans girl 🥰️🏳️‍⚧️️💖️

[–] Drivebyhaiku 4 points 3 months ago

Why not, special occasion why not bring out the micro label? Trans non-binary Genderfaun ( fluid between agender and masc but never femme).

[–] cetvrti_magi 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

At the moment I consider myself a trans girl but it may turn out that I'm some kind of demigirl as I explore my gender identity more.

[–] Valmond 3 points 3 months ago (1 children)

What is a demigirl please ?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

Agender trans-neutral

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

I generally go with trans woman/girl (I refuse to acknowledge that I'm getting older), but mostly because I feel like that broad classification covers a fair amount of what other people would classify as demigirl or transfemme enby. Admittedly I also take the view that gender can be described as a zone of 3-d grid, with axes "femme", "masc" and "other" (although what "other" really is depends on the individual in question), and my own goes 80-90 femme, ~10 masc, 20-30 other (each out of 100)

[–] Feathercrown 4 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Male, I'm just here to observe

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

Trans masc, not sure where on the spectrum of binary/non-binary

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

Transfem demigirl femboy (technically magigirl, but more people know the term demigirl so I just use that)

[–] tacosplease 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I'm just a standard issue guy; always have been. Was raised conservative and flipped to progressive as an adult.

I'm here out of benevolent curiosity. I want to know how to interact with trans folks respectfully. I believe that learning about their thoughts and experiences will foster a perspective that makes it easier to understand how to do that.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

feel free to DM me any burning questions you have, btw - I'm happy to walk through anything!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

Idgaf - i don't give a fuck, I'm me

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

trans girl, the trans part is important to me :3

and I also like being a bunnydemon! :D

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

Nonbinary (AMAB)

[–] thezeesystem 4 points 3 months ago
[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

enby/demigirl

[–] kromem 3 points 3 months ago

I'm generally okay with and at ease with my birth gender, though I would definitely say that my inner self isn't inherently gendered and more picked up the qualities of my birth gender along the way but isn't inextricably linked to it.

I tend to think of it like how light when absorbed and reemitted takes on the frequency of the thing which absorbed it, but that coloring of the light isn't really describing the original nature or quality of the light so much as the journey it took and what was picked up along the way.

So cis gendered but not particularly committed to my gender one way or another. Would rank a host of other qualities above my gender in how important it is to my identity.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

I'm a trans woman; I don't tend to comment much, but I am here :)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Female or possibly demi-girl. The distinction doesn't make any practical difference to me, so I usually just go by female. I'm trans if that makes a difference in your graph.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Agender transfem, I think mostly fits me, but I'm still coming to terms with the transfem part (especially since I live in the UK 😅)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago
[–] AlexCory21 3 points 3 months ago

I am a trans woman that is just trying to "blend in" if you know what I mean.

But if it comes up in conversation and i'm comfortable enough I may or may not reveal the fact that I'm trans.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Transfem fairly binary

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Transfem - Non Binary

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Non-binary, i can't be arsed to try to find a more specific label.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Somewhere between agender (how I feel) and gender fluid (how I present)

[–] ThatWeirdGuy1001 3 points 3 months ago

I'm a cis man. I only watch this community because I feel for y'all and understand the discrimination you're going through.

I'm autistic and severely ADHD. It's hard to live when everyone hates you for just being you. So while I'm not an egg or anything I take comfort in being around others who know how it feels to be rejected and fought against.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

I guess I'm a trans tomboy? I'm new to all this so I don't have the lingo down yet. I have two ex-wives and I think I want an ex-husband too. But it'll have to wait. I recently realized I need someone who sees me as a woman and that's likely not happening anytime soon. Right now it feels like I want to wait until after bottom surgery. It'll be a long wait, but I've decided not to let old hang ups and preconceived notions dictate my life any longer so it might change if I meet the right person. I'm not sweating it, though.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

I kinda wish I knew and I kinda don't. It seems like it changes every couple days or weeks.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago

Sometimes I feel like I know... then I realize I'm not completely sure. 🤷 Somewhere between she and they, I think.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

How do I know?

If you had asked me a year ago what my gender identity was, my answer would have been rather different than if you asked me now. I tend to be skeptical that I have the appropriate epistemic vantage point to have a certain answer to such a question. I'm not even sure there is such a thing as a persistent, innate, or essential gender identity.

Philosophical problems aside, assuming this is a census or something, I would be considered a trans woman.

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