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General trans community.

Rules:

  1. Follow all blahaj.zone rules

  2. All posts must be trans-related. Other queer-related posts go to c/lgbtq.

  3. Don't post negative, depressing news articles about trans issues unless there is a call to action or a way to help.

Resources:

Best resource: https://github.com/cvyl/awesome-transgender Site with links to resources for just about anything.

Trevor Project: crisis mental health services for LGBTQ people, lots of helpful information and resources: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/

The Gender Dysphoria Bible: useful info on various aspects of gender dysphoria: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en

StainedGlassWoman: Various useful essays on trans topics: https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/

Trans resources: https://trans-resources.info/

[USA] Resources for trans people in the South: https://southernequality.org/resources/transinthesouth/#provider-map

[USA] Report discrimination: https://action.aclu.org/legal-intake/report-lgbtqhiv-discrimination

[USA] Keep track on trans legislation and news: https://www.erininthemorning.com/

[GERMANY] Bundesverband Trans: Find medical trans resources: https://www.bundesverband-trans.de/publikationen/leitfaden-fuer-behandlungssuchende/

[GERMANY] Trans DB: Insurance information (may be outdated): https://transdb.de/

[GERMANY] Deutsche Gesellschaft für Transidentität und Intersexualität: They have contact information for their advice centers and some general information for trans and intersex people. They also do activism: dgti.org

*this is a work in progress, and these resources are courtesy of users like you! if you have a resource that helped you out in your trans journey, comment below in the pinned post and I'll add here to pass it on

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I'm curious about the makeup of this community. Might make a graph later.

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[–] [email protected] 23 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Woman probably. IDK I'm kinda just vibing it out from my brain.

Also this guy

A picture of an opossum in front of a small bottle that could have liquor.

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Cis man.

Most of my friends are queer, so I'm usually the outlier on that regard.

Also I wandered in here from browsing "all" so I'm arguably not in the community at all.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago

welcome to the party we hope you enjoy your stay :D

[–] [email protected] 16 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Right now it's something like this:

ehem

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago

That fits snugly into the "???" Category

[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 months ago
[–] [email protected] 14 points 3 months ago

Binary trans woman? Binary feels like the closest fit, but at the same time, so much of gender is a construct, and I think I would probably have a different relationship with my gender identity if I was 20 years younger than I am, and grew up with more nuanced representation of gender.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Definitely still figuring that out. All I know for sure is that there is some degree of fem in it.

Even though it makes no sense at all, it does feel like the clock is ticking sometimes. That I need to hurry up and figure it out.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago (1 children)

It's okay and normal to not be 100% sure and to even change your mind entirely later. The important thing is you feel you have the agency to be whatever version of yourself feels right in the moment 💕

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (4 children)

Thanks for your kind words!

I, myself am perfectly okay with who I am and my evolving identity (all of us are just Pokémon after all).

There's this anxiety that stems from never being entirely sure how your environment is going to react that is causing this to be a more personal journey for me. Somehow it feels like having a greater degree of certainty is going to make actually being who I am to the rest of the world a lot easier. Confidence is key I guess.

Having had some bad experiences being open about my feelings definitely doesn't help either. So until the need to do otherwise arises, I'll probably just be honest with myself and not entirely with my surroundings.

In the meantime I'm having lots of fun stealthily experimenting with everything not tied to the stereotypical masculine identity. And I'll continue doing so until I feel the need to make those elements part of my public identity.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Cis hetero.

I tend to just lurk because this isn't a space for me, but it's a good way to keep connected to the community outside of my local area, and stay aware of ongoing social changes and such.

[–] Leg 8 points 3 months ago

This is also me.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 months ago (2 children)

dialup noises

Trans femme, leaning towards enby?

I want to see how I feel on HRT but it feels so far away... very much want to move away from my current state before starting to "really" transition.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

Way to relatable. Was thinking I'd like to build up some more savings, so I don't have to worry as much about finances. But thinking maybe I should just try.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago (3 children)

There's always going low dose and ramping it up when you leave. Low dose is more gradual and less people will notice as quickly, and you may get some of the mental health benefits from it.

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

I'll put you under "???"

[–] [email protected] 11 points 3 months ago

Genderfluid trans enby, i like he/she/they/any.

My body is base model femme but my brain is rather teenage boy.

Toph from Avatar seems to share my gender, lol

[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago
[–] [email protected] 10 points 3 months ago

Trans femme / A-gender gurl here to assist your data!

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago

Nonbinary trans femme

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Cisgender heterosexual male.

I care about trans rights even though it doesn't affect me personally. The same way that I care about abortion rights even though I can't get pregnant.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Welcome! Ultimately transphobia is a cis problem, so it really helps when cis folks educate themselves and advocate to create change. Thank you!

EDIT: any cis ally looking to learn more, I found the Gender Dysphoria Bible a helpful resource.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago

Binary trans woman, here 🫡🏳️‍⚧️

[–] [email protected] 9 points 3 months ago (2 children)

female womanly woman womyn so binary im beeping and booping

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[–] Okokimup 9 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

Cis woman representing.

In case anyone cares, I don't care about my own gender identity. I identify as a cis woman because it's easy for me and I don't experience any disphoria or offense no matter how people gender me. Here to support trans and nonbinary people.

[–] AquaTofana 6 points 3 months ago

I'm in this comment! I'm also a cis lady who doesn't have any gender dysphagia. Also here to support all my LGBTQ+ humans!

So I guess we're twinning now! <3

[–] halloween_spookster 8 points 3 months ago

Cis male, casual lurker

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago
[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago

Nonbinary transfemme—using precise terminology for something I consider quite vague. I have a hard time calling myself a woman, but that's essentially where I'm headed. Maybe demigirl.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago

Cis man. Just stating that makes me feel boring

[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Male since birth. (Is that what Cis means?)

But strongly of the opinion that whatever it is should only matter to me and whoever vitally needs to know it for providing effective health care.

Anything else should be "fill in the blanks with whatever you like and not make it a big deal."

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 8 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Finally bro I thought I was the only one lmao

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[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago

Trans woman 🏳️‍⚧️

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Trans girl/woman 🏳️‍⚧️

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago

transandrogynous genderqueerdo

[–] [email protected] 7 points 3 months ago

Trans girl checking in! 🏳️‍⚧️ 😇

[–] Nikki 6 points 3 months ago

transfem girlypop cute pink yes please

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Genderflux demigirl: I fluctuate between agender and girl. I never want to be called a man or its adjacent terms ever again, but I also don't want to be beholden by the confines of "woman." "Girl" is nice, though. I like being girly.

In other words, varying degrees of girl, but never man. To anyone to whom it may be too complicated, non-binary.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

Maybe trans woman? I just learned of the term demigirl from these comments and that seems to fit a little better. Some flavor of girl/femme 😘

[–] [email protected] 6 points 3 months ago

binary trans woman reporting for duty :3

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (2 children)

Didn't know there was gonna be a chart :o Kinda wanna buff up that enby slice but the transfem green is pretty close to my colour soooo...

Femby? 😅

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago

She/they trans fem trans girl/woman

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Probably late but freshly cracked trans girl here!

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[–] BassaForte 5 points 3 months ago

Started as non-binary / bigender trans-fem, but now just Demigirl / trans-fem.

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