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[–] Wermhatswormhat 176 points 6 months ago (16 children)

I feel this in my soul. Same way, notice a cute girl a work don’t want to be the creepy guy at the office, see a cute girl working at the movie theatre, no this is her job, she doesn’t need that at work. This is why I’m single 😅

[–] Squirrelsdrivemenuts 91 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Thank you for not being the annoying guy trying to hit on girls 🙂

[–] effward 79 points 6 months ago (1 children)

The annoying thing is that the annoying guys are more likely to get a date, while they just go about their day. Not because they are better, or because their methods are good, but purely because they approach more people.

I hate making people feel uncomfortable (no matter their gender), so I always struggled finding "spontaneous" dates, or even dancing with strangers at a club/party.

The only thing that really worked for me was using dating apps, where both parties have implicitly indicated that they are looking for dates in general (because they're on the app) and explicitly indicated that they are interested in each other (by liking their profile, or whatever).

Although I've heard the apps have all gotten worse lately, I wouldn't really know, as I found someone on Tinder years ago, and now we're happily married.

[–] Gonzako 33 points 6 months ago (6 children)

I'll be honest, as long as you don't make it weird you can approach a lot of people be they're on the job or not. If they're on the job just ask them about the journey so far. Like, they're also human you can treat them as such.

[–] [email protected] 32 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Nah. Everyone I'm attracted to either better know it by my silence or well never be together

[–] Gonzako 14 points 6 months ago

Wow, what a relief, I thought you were into me

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[–] hansl 36 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Ask once, be clean about it, look like a dork for a few minutes, if she says no, let it go and never mention it again.

The annoying creep is likely to do ask her out twice a week.

Theres no way to ask without looking weird, but the follow up is what distinguishes regular guys from creeps.

[–] [email protected] 37 points 6 months ago (9 children)

There's no need to even ask them out right away. Just having a casual conversation and making them speak of their interests can warm them to you.

Are they your coworker? Sigh at how needy clients are, tell how you want to have a break, ask what they want to do when they have them. Discuss details.

A cinema worker is harder, but you can play a dummy and ask them if they see the movies screened there and can vouch for some of them or if they can suggest some snack from a bar, to break the ice.

People like talking about themselves. All have hilarious stories to tell. One needs to make them open up and react in a supportive way. Looking up interviewers on youtube can get one a better idea of how it's done than these greesy pick-up artists. Genuinely enjoying a conversation rather than being hungry for a pussy\dick and making it all about yourself is a great start.

[–] Custoslibera 10 points 5 months ago

Great advice 10/10.

If you go in trying to bed them you’re likely going to crash and burn.

Just try to make them a friend it’s a win win win because if you hit it off then you get a friend, if the attraction is reciprocated you may get relationship, if they aren’t interested in you but see you as a good person they may try to set you up with a friend of theirs that is single.

Can’t lose with this method.

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[–] ad_on_is 35 points 5 months ago (2 children)

Seing some cute girl at the bar "nope, she's probably here just to enjoy her drink"

[–] ChickenLadyLovesLife 20 points 5 months ago (1 children)

See some cute girl naked in your bed "nope, she's just tired"

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[–] [email protected] 18 points 5 months ago

See some cute girl waiting in your bed "nope, she probably just wants a nap"

[–] Chobbes 33 points 6 months ago (2 children)

To be fair, it’s ideal to not date your coworkers anyway.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 6 months ago (4 children)

Who comes up with this stuff. Date whoever you want, YOLO

[–] Chobbes 28 points 6 months ago (1 children)

Eh. It can kind of cause a lot of problems in the workplace, and not just for the people dating… Especially if somebody is the type to get jealous if you have to work with their partner on something, which is sadly not uncommon. If you’re mature and can deal with it… fine. But, frankly, there’s plenty of fish in the sea and it’s probably better to date outside of work (or at least your team) for everybody.

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[–] Agent641 15 points 6 months ago

Youre right, im gonna date your mum

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago (1 children)

I've seen work relationships go very badly but I've also seen them go very well. I met my wife at work so it worked out great for me.

Best advice I can give is, if you want to date people you work with, make sure you're ok with quitting your job. If things go south it might come to that. Use good judgement. Don't date your boss or one of your subbordinates. That's a great way to get fired out of a canon.

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[–] [email protected] 28 points 5 months ago (6 children)

Nope. Ask flat out, don't be weird about it. You get one shot before there's any potential harassment, take it... Then accept the result

That's all there is to it

[–] [email protected] 14 points 5 months ago (3 children)

Okay so what if you're from one of the many countries where asking people out on dates isn't really a thing?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 5 months ago (3 children)

I assume the population in those countries is going down then because I don't understand how else you're supposed to do it?

You just hit them over the head with a rock

[–] [email protected] 11 points 5 months ago

I won't pretend to be an expert on the matter since I'm very much alone, but in my experience it's something that happens more organically, through common interests and such. It's more of a process, less of a transaction.

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[–] AFKBRBChocolate 103 points 6 months ago (4 children)

I sometimes think being an attractive girl must be both the best and the worst thing ever.

[–] [email protected] 70 points 6 months ago (3 children)

I believe the phrase I've seen was "an avalanche of not-asked-for dicks"

[–] [email protected] 13 points 6 months ago

That seems pretty accurate.

[–] hOrni 11 points 5 months ago

"Which was the original slogan for Tinder".

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[+] Sekrayray 100 points 5 months ago (23 children)

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[–] [email protected] 57 points 5 months ago (14 children)

As much as I understand your opinion, I'm really struggling to understand how couples meet outside of apps now. I've been in a long-term monogamous relationship for more than 20 years, I'm completely out of the loop.

[–] [email protected] 23 points 5 months ago

I'm single and I don't know either.

[–] Got_Bent 16 points 5 months ago

I've been single for five years now.

I got rid of social media and then COVID hit.

I honestly don't even know how to socialize anymore let alone date.

Fortunately or unfortunately as the case may be, my relationship history has me so jaded, that I really don't have any desire to date.

If I did desire such a thing, I have no idea how I would go about it. There aren't any more physical community places unless you wanna go get shitfaced in a bar, and I'm long since past those days.

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[–] Phegan 25 points 5 months ago (6 children)

This is, in fact, a popular opinion, especially by women.

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[–] [email protected] 21 points 5 months ago (12 children)

On the contrary, I have two real life friend couples who met at the gym and are now married with children.

If consenting adults are meeting one another in a public space, they should be free to approach each other.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 5 months ago

I think the biggest problem is that people go straight to trying to flirt or hit on someone... We've spent too much time on Tinder where it is sending as many one-liner pick-up style openers that people start to think that is a normal way for an interaction out in the world to go. Generally, the majority has forgotten how to talk to people face to face in real life in a normal and appropriate manner.

Also, if they are now married with children, I have to assume they met a few years ago and at least possibly, maybe even likely, it happened before the shit hit the fan like it has now. The dating world has been rapidly changing over the last few years.

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[–] [email protected] 90 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (3 children)

D- Demonstrate value by suggesting that you can afford a hospital stay

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[–] skydivekingair 35 points 6 months ago (6 children)

She says “no” lol

[–] mihnt 35 points 6 months ago (3 children)

"I have a boyfriend."

[–] Agent641 13 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

"He can drive you. Babe come help this..." looks you up and down "...man."

[–] unreachable 12 points 6 months ago

"well, so do i. what coincidence."

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[–] FlyingSquid 25 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (3 children)

Any time I even for a second think about what it would be like to not be married, I remember that even finding a date, let alone dating, in 2024 sounds exhausting, so I remind myself to be thankful for what I have. I'm sorry for those of you who struggle finding a long-term partner.

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[–] wellee 22 points 6 months ago

Just don't tbh

[–] [email protected] 15 points 6 months ago (1 children)

ik its a joke, but wouldnt that be more annoying?

[–] corus_kt 12 points 6 months ago (1 children)

You gotta drop a weight heavy enough to land in hospital rather than attract disgusted looks from the loud sound it makes... The teary pained face while asking for favors can't be that great a first impression.

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