Spectrum is fine and all, but gay is gay. If gay would mean many things, the word would be useless. It already became useless for its original meaning, let's not kill it again :-)

[–] hydrospanner 5 points 9 months ago (1 children)

If gay would mean many things, the word would be useless.

Yeah, totally. I mean, that's definitely why there aren't any words at all in the entire English language that have more than one strictly defined meaning, and that meaning has never, ever changed.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

Oh man. I should've used the word homosexual to be precise.

[–] dvoraqs 3 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Love is multiple things and is still meaningful for us.

Theoretically I can see somebody not being attracted to guys, as in masculine people, or just males, but still being turned on by penises as we see in OP's example. That person might not call themselves gay since they wouldn't want to be in a relationship with any guys, but might be interested in a hookup with a trans woman who still had their dick.

Maybe their is some nuance in what being gay is or there is room for another descriptor for this phenomenon.

Edit: reading below, this person might be hetero-romantic and homo-sexual.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

Not judging or anything, i never cared who wanted to make love to whatever.

But he really wanted dudes. Women were "disgusting". whatever floats ones boat, but this is simply the definition of gay, if you like the term or not. It's just a word describing a preference. A dude just liking cocks on a dude's body and person and gender, then it's plain gay.

Guess in his case (my generation, we both being genx) it was just the typical upbringing that said gay=bad. Guess the shit stucks deeply, hence his cognitive dissonance and extreme adversity to gayness.