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[–] ChexMax 165 points 1 year ago (6 children)

No but they absolutely do say, "Wow you look really pretty today" but have no idea why.

Men treat you nicer when you wear makeup.

The other day my coworker said, "you look different. I don't know what it is, but you look great. I think you've been getting a lot of rest" nope. Just wore makeup that day

My husband, many times, has been looking at me, admiring me, and complimenting me on how naturally beautiful I am without realizing I just filled my eyebrows in that day and have darker lashes rather than blonde lashes.

Just because men have the privilege of ignorance doesn't mean they aren't attracted to made up faces.

[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I believe the post is specifically about long eyelashes, fake eyelashes.

That said, my wife has worn makeup twice in 18 years. I love her for being herself, but I complimented her on how nice she looked those two times her sister did her makeup because I'm not a complete jerk and have some idea of how to be kind when someone has spent an hour trying to look nice. I also attempted to make it clear that I preferred her without makeup, maybe something along the lines of, "I love how naturally beautiful you are."

Just because some women consider men to be ignorant doesn't mean we are.

[–] creditCrazy 5 points 1 year ago

I personally chucked it up to artistry. Makeup is to put it literally is drawing on your face and thusly it's art. I'm a artist and yea I've had people male and female see one of my photos or drawings and ask me how I made this or that thing look cool. I've even had people say my photographs look nice because I take a lot of pictures, and well I suppose that's a pretty blunt way of saying I practiced. If you don't study a art form you won't know what separates beginner artists from veteran artists. Tbh the only reason I know anything about makeup is because I sketch and making human CGI models is basically doing makeup for someone else and even then I understand that a lot of my terminology might be wrong and you can't just simply make someones nose smaller or make them have a bigger mouth.

[–] DrMango 10 points 1 year ago

https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2020-82365-001

Spot on, and supported by psyche studies. They may not be consciously thinking about the lashes, but they definitely notice.

[–] fruitSnackSupreme 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Why is this a thing, but then if men wear any makeup whatsoever, it's immediately noticeable? Unfair man.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 year ago

Cause it's really difficult to apply a subtle hint of makeup to enhance existing features. Men (usually) don't get a ton of practice at it, so they use a heavy hand.

People that say they hate makeup USUALLY just hate heavy, poorly done makeup.
People that say they hate cosmetic surgery USUALLY just hate heavy, poorly done plastic surgery.

I hate when people feel they need to apply makeup they don't want, and hate when people feel they need surgery to look good, but there are definitely people who do both for the right reasons, and do them well, and people DO notice the improvement, they just don't always notice why.

[–] ChexMax 1 points 1 year ago

I do feel bad that makeup isn't more normalized for men. That said, the more you practice, the less noticeable it is! And if you go for a practiced natural look, it will probably not be noticeable to other men! For what it's worth, makeup is almost always going to be immediately noticed by people who do makeup

[–] CADmonkey 1 points 1 year ago

My wife has worn makeup maybe twice since we have been married. She naturally has skin that women pay a lot of money to try and emulate. Your ancetotal evidence isnt good for much.

[–] aidan 0 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Enhancing make-up of course anyone might like. The issue is there is a lot of excessive makeup that to me looks terrible. Ofc, people aren't just wearing it to impress me, but you're giving the impression that any guy who complains about make-up doesn't understand and is just a hypocrite. I don't know any guy who actually likes eye shadow, long nails, or lipstick.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I be you do know plenty of guys that do, it's easy to assume everyone thinks like you but that's not how humans work.

[–] aidan 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Maybe so, but no one I've talked to about it has said so. I guess saying, nobody that I know of is more accurate.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

As a man, I agree. I think it's more that if it's noticable make up, it's probably too much, and that's the only kind most men notice. I personally don't care about the things you mentioned, however I do appreciate eyeliner and hair dyes (as long as it isn't damaged to a crisp). Otherwise, just generally looking healthy and hygienic is important.

[–] MrMcGasion 4 points 1 year ago

I'm a guy who really likes all of those, and heavier make-up looks in general. I wouldn't ever expect someone to wear them just for me though. I see makeup as something that's 90% for the person wearing it, and making them feel good about themselves. Same goes for lighter or no make-up looks. The confidence from feeling good about yourself is far more important than whatever "look" you go for.