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[–] CADmonkey 10 points 1 year ago

My wife wanted a kid, she didn't care if it was a boy or girl. I'd had a bad experience with someone else who demanded a child, so I was immediately leery. We were married for four years, and while she wasn't intended, my daughter arrived in 2013. She's a pretty cool kid.

The more important thing though, is how happy my wife was and still is to have a child. And that child has become one of my favorite people. So I'd say its going pretty good.

I also got a vasectomy. My wife wasn't opposed to having another one, but she didn't want to go through the whole pregnancy/birth process again, especially since we live in Oklahoma, and if anything went wrong it could potentially go very wrong. We are also in agreement that while our nice little family is nice and little, another child would throw a wrench in our finances that it would be difficult to recover from. So we've limited ourselves to one Human Larve.