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Whether it's foot in mouth, a sudden heavy subject, or some utter nonsense that you don't know how to process, what's something that's come up in an otherwise alright conversation that's stopped it dead in its track for both of you?

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[–] Risus_Nex 58 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It was on a wedding. I was talking to a dude who got seated at our table. Somehow he managed to change the subject to gender and such, him not understanding why we need these new pronouns and such. I could already tell, that this conversation was heading in a bad direction. Then he said something like "I don't care if people are gay, but at least some years ago, they would hide at home and be embarrassed about it!" That was the point when I turned around without another word and simply walked away. He didn't understand what he did wrong. But I didn't want to make a scene at the wedding. Also I am certain that it has no use discussing anything with people like that.

[–] Rhynoplaz 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Damn. I'd ALMOST respect his honesty. Most of those assholes come up with some "legitimate reason" as to why only people like themselves deserve freedom.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (2 children)

What honesty? I'm not seeing it. "I'm not homophobic but they should 'at least' be embarrassed and in hiding at home for it" is... not very honest: making that judgment isn't "not caring".

[–] ShakyPerception 12 points 1 year ago (1 children)

As opposed to hiding behind religion or quoting that one passage in the bible, the dude straight up said that he thinks gay people are icky. That level of honesty is rarely found in these discussions.

I have family members who are covered in tattoos, wearing blended fabrics, worship football, and will quote that passage as to why being gay is wrong. It infuriates me to no end.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

One day I am in power of a movie company and I will make a movie about Jesus' second coming and he's gonna quote the bible while him and Peter burn the souls of bigots with napalm throwers...

[–] betterdeadthanreddit 2 points 1 year ago

If you can work in a seemingly minor subplot where they save somebody in an early part and bring them along to be their scribe but who later has a villain reveal scene as the Antichrist for a final showdown, I'm sold. Could be a sequel setup too.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Did they say they weren't homophobic?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

The "I don't care if people are gay" has to be intended that way. It's like "I'm not racist, but..."