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[โ€“] taiyang 9 points 2 days ago (1 children)

So far, I've stayed in the know on every god damned thing, even going deep enough in some cases to explore the damage caused. It's stressful, but somebody has to do it and I'm someone less impacted than the targets of this insanity (although I've dated a transfem for years and am trained in education policy, so obviously the news gets to me on a personal level).

One lesson about stress: you've got three ways to cope: (1) you address the source of the stress (or at least feel like you're doing something, like protesting). (2) You ignore it with distractions, which is perfectly fine if it's out of your control, (3) you reframe it, such as "this will pass" or "there's still good in the world", etc.. All three will reduce stress.

We all do all three, and whichever one you find yourself doing is fine. For example, I feel good by trying to share my knowledge and convince my students to give a shit; I still play video games to relax; and I have told myself plenty of times that, while it's bad (very, very bad), that as long as we survive we can build back our institutions (and believe me, the DoE is both important and deeply flawed-- as someone who survived a failed k-12 education and got a PhD in spite of it, education reform has always been my dream).

[โ€“] Gradually_Adjusting 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

You didn't mention compartmentalization. ๐Ÿค”

[โ€“] taiyang 4 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

Well, those three things are what a psych teacher told me in community college like, way before I sought out my degree. Not that that should be a ding against her, she taught at pretty competitive 4 years, too.

That said, yours could just be a different framework (e.g. PTSD literature). I personally don't think that works very well, as it represses the emotion (much like ignoring it would do). You could also argue physical exercise and deep breaths work, too, but again, that's another framework and one that's generally taught along with aggression literature.

[โ€“] Gradually_Adjusting 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Damn. You know your stuff well enough that I'm not going to waste your time doing a bit. It was probably funnier in my head anyway.

[โ€“] taiyang 2 points 2 days ago

Heh, probably just needed a more extreme example, like healing crystals. But man, even that ends up tested by researches if for no other reason but to debunk it, lol.