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I hope I didn't imply you did anything wrong in being shocked by what you found out. It seems a pretty normal reaction.
Does them having an OF make what you originally enjoyed of them feel hypocritical? Like if they were for example promoting abstinence, some type of morality, or where they playing up their supposed innocence? Or is it more like, I thought this person wouldn't do something like this publicly? If they got banned for promoting their OF, did you miss it up until now? Or is this more like in the news where a school finds out a teacher has an OF and fires them when it doesn't have anything to do with their other gig?
I understand you being intentionally vague, but it kinda makes it hard to pin down why you are feeling off about the whole situation or what you're looking to get back from us.
People online are both real and fake, and my original comment tried to say that. I try to come off very polite and educational here. That's definitely a good part of the real me. But there's a lot more to me. There's a lot more than I won't always put front and center, but I'll open up if it's relevant, like all the terrible shit I did to people before I got medicated or from being raised by a kind of crappy family and I had no empathy for a long time. I still have a lot of difficulties, and while I can be a chronically depressed introvert with no ambition or self esteem, I can also be a positive and outgoing educator or comedian. They're both me. Sometimes I'm more one or the other or even both at once. T
his person you're talking about can be the same. They can be formal and proper or whatever the opposite of their OF persona is, and then do crazy extreme stuff in the OF context. They've understood and accepted those parts of themselves, and they're not only doing the one thing that caught your interest, but also another totally different thing for another group.
If you just take whatever time for you to process that both realities exist within that person, you will know if they're someone you still wish to follow or not.
I'm still following them, them doing OF isn't a problem just a surprise. Imagine following someone who presents to the world like the most shy OCD anti-social person on earth.
But then does OF. I'm sure it would surprise anybody