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True spicy unpopular opinions. There's just something about them that always gets people riled up and they always feel that they've got to attack it because they're emotionally charged.

And no I'm not talking about unpopular opinions made for edgy purposes like "DEM *****S SHOULD BE BACK IN PLANTATION!" shit. I'm talking more thought out, articulative kinds and opinions that just come out of someone's belief against the major tide of the hivemind.

I've spoken of opinions on Reddit, on here, on Facebook and a couple of other platforms. Everytime it's the same thing, people are attacking it and unable to engage in a discussion. They always assume I'm just here to listen to myself talk and just looking for people to only agree with me.

I don't give a fuck whether or not you agree with me. Opinions aren't facts or anything. But I don't have the patience for emotionally-charged people that's going to come on in and just throw down for no reason.

So I think nobody is ready to handle these kinds of thoughts.

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[–] FourPacketsOfPeanuts 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I enjoy 'free' debate where I can be the devil's advocate for unpopular opinions. Talk like this is more or less banned on Reddit. Lemmy is a much freer. I think the are sensible boundaries on certain topics where debate must not turn into advocacy. This takes nuance and good sense though. Completely dead on Reddit, still alive here. So carry on..

[–] cheese_greater 1 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 23 hours ago) (1 children)

Do you actually feel conviction behind the claims and arguments, or is it more performative? I have people in my life who take it way to far almost to the point of chronic bad faith and making them annoying to talk to about anything...

[–] FourPacketsOfPeanuts 2 points 22 hours ago* (last edited 22 hours ago)

Do you actually feel conviction behind the claims and arguments, or is it more performative?

Yes. I think what happens in many difficult topics is people know how they feel but have never really thought through the detail. And because of that they backfill with black and white thinking that I think is bad for several reasons.

I) often even though I agree on the central issue, the black and white thinking contains overreactions that I disagree with that in themselves cause other problems. So I see value in developing an emotional black and white view into a nuanced dark grey / off-white view.

ii) black and white thinking leaves us ill equipped to understand others or find compromises

iii) although we all do it, relying on strong emotional convictions is fine for day to day life but leaves us out of practice articulating exactly why we think things should be a certain way and therefore vulnerable to articulate bad actors

I would never take a contrary view just to be annoying. And I generally only do it on moral issues, not matters of strong consensus that would veer into conspiracy. (E.g. practising reciting the evidence for why we understand the Holocaust is real is a useful historical skill but not the kind of thing I'm talking about)