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[–] [email protected] 130 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (6 children)

No and not for the reason you'd expect:

To open an account, OnlyFans requires you to do social media and prove that your social media accounts are yours, and of course they require you to hand over your real identity with your real ID card or passport and a selfie.

This is beyond dystopian. You have to be suicidal from a privacy standpoint to do OnlyFans.

[–] scarabic 1 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

You’ve probably provided ID at every job you’ve ever had. This is to establish legal residency and that you are of working age. I know OF is not a 9 to 5 job but money is exchanged and I don’t see why this is so dystopian, especially given the extra sensitivity around age.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

I have no issue with providing ID. I take issue with them requiring me to provide social media credentials. If you don't do social media - and especially if you don't do Facebook in particular - no OnlyFans for you.

Do you find this normal?
I don't.

[–] scarabic 1 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Okay you actually spent more words on ID and real identity than socials so that did seem to be an objection.

Privacy is the concern you cited. If so, why would you be worried about Facebook and not be worried about real ID?

I’m just trying to understand this clearly - setting aside hyperbole words like dystopian and questions about what I find normal.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (2 children)

Well, I'm not a fan of any for-profit asking for my ID. But this is an outfit for sex workers and I'm a reasonable man, so I understand the legal need for them to ask me to provide strong proof of my identity, simply to comply with the law.

But why should they go any further than what the law requires them to do?

There are very valid reasons to have a private Facebook and keep it totally separate from your OnlyFans gig. You may have had your Facebook account for years or decades, you interact with your friends and family with it, you know your employer - or your next employer's headhunter - will check it out. It needs to be squeaky clean and "normal".

And on the side, you're Mistress Jeanne queen of the dominatrix on OnlyFans: you absolutely DON'T want anybody to know you're Mistress Jeanne for obvious reasons.

OnlyFans destroys this separation. They know who you are (by law) and they force you to tell them who you present yourself as on Facebook - in case you didn't use quite the same name, which is very common with trans people for example - and they obviously know who you are and what you do on their platform.

Why do you think they require you to disclose your social media avatars? To aggregate the information and sell it of course. It's completely obvious they're building a database of fully deanonymized sex workers, and that has to be worth a pretty penny on the nauseating data brokers' market.

If you don't care about privacy, you use your real name everywhere or you don't care that Big Data knows everything about you, including your not-so-savory activities, this is of no concern to you. But most people do stuff they want to keep secret, or hidden, or at least compartmentalized away from their ordinary life and OnlyFan's requirements are all shades of terrible for that basic right to privacy.

[–] scarabic 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Well, I did think of a reason and it’s not for selling your data. This was in the back of my mind but I didn’t know how to put it into words.

From your perspective, you’re a private individual who wants to display a little ass for coin, all on the up and up. And how dare they ask invasive questions.

But you do have to remember that ANY community driven site has abuse problems all the time, let alone one where sex workers are plying their trade. So in my mind, they are asking for FB so they can say “keep it real - we know who you are.”

On the one hand this is dumb and implies a threat. On other hand their site would immediately fly downhill and get shut down if everything there could be done with total anonymity.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Be that as it may, it's still unacceptable.
To me anyway.
And it fully qualifies as dystopian in my opinion.

[–] scarabic 1 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Okay. You have a rather low bar for dystopia.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 hour ago* (last edited 1 hour ago)

Indeed I do. I'm gen-X 🙂 This sort of shit was unheard of - and unthinkable - when I grew up. This is everybody's normal today but it sure ain't mine.

[–] scarabic 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I agree I can’t think of any good reason to require Facebook account. But it seems pretty easy to just tell them you never had an account before and create a dummy one. That’s probably what a lot of people have to anyway since no one uses FB anymore.

If it turns you off, I get it. If you want to protect your privacy better, I get that too, though OF doesn’t seem like a vehicle for increasing one’s privacy under any circumstances. The whole “dystopian” thing was a bit much though.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

But it seems pretty easy to just tell them you never had an account before and create a dummy one.

That doesn't work. They don't accept that. They tell you "Sorry but you need a solid social media presence, with an old account full of actual content." No social media, no OnlyFans. They literally tell you that when you send them a support email asking why your application was rejected.

[–] scarabic 1 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

I find it hard to believe that all the GenZ ladies there have extensive Facebook accounts.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 10 hours ago

They accept other forms of social media presence of course - although only a select few types. But when I looked into this 2 or 3 years ago, they were absolutely biased towards you preferentially having a Facebook account. And they literally told me they actively worked with Facebook, hence the bias - and if you don't find them outright admitting this alarming, I don't know what does.

I'm just telling you what they told me.

[–] [email protected] 47 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That's actually fucking ridiculous. But I guess if you're willing to put your asshole and face together on the Internet, you're probably not to concerned about these extra steps.

[–] [email protected] 46 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (5 children)

You miss the point.

What if you want to have a Facebook with the name "Joe Smith" and an OnlyFans with the name "Queen Georgina"? Even if your OnlyFans shows your face - which isn't a requirement by the way - it's not your real name. And you may not want to put your face or your real name on your Facebook at all, and keep the two completely separate.

OnlyFans basically destroy the separation between your accounts and links both with your real identity, your real government-issued ID number or SSN. And they collaborate very closely with Facebook in case you didn't know. I know that because I asked them.

As for asshole pictures, as far as I know, asshole recognition technology isn't as developed as facial recognition technology yet.

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA 1 points 12 hours ago

wait really? put me back in the fuck no camp then

[–] Fuckfuckmyfuckingass 40 points 1 day ago (3 children)

"As for asshole pictures, as far as I know, asshole recognition technology isn't as developed as facial recognition technology yet."

Fecal recognition technology.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 1 day ago (2 children)

They're developing a toilet that can recognize people based on unique asshole prints and track, analyze, and store data on your waste on the cloud. It's a privacy nightmare I didn't think I needed to worry about. https://futurism.com/neoscope/scientists-toilet-identifies-butthole

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Nope, this isn't real, I'm high as balls and back a decade ago when AdultSwim did the SmartPipe joke informercial, I'm just hallucinacting being in 2025.

Yep.

Just really high right now, certainly not living in the pedophile toilet future timeline.

[–] Fuckfuckmyfuckingass 2 points 1 day ago

I immediately was like "smart pipe!" No fuckin' way.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

We must install live stream cameras in all our toilets, for the sake of national security

  • someone Senior at DHS, probably
[–] HeyJoe -1 points 1 day ago

It may save lives one day.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 1 day ago

What point do you think that I am missing? I was making a half-joke saying that people on Onlyfans probably aren't super into privacy measures.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Facebook doesn't allow you to not show your face

[–] [email protected] 34 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Im going to assume OnlyFans doesn't do that because they want to. They'd likely be harassed by government if they didn't.

Pornhub had to remove all unverified videos (which was most of their videos) and now anyone who uploads must follow similar rules that OnlyFans has. Pornhub posted an announcement saying they reported 118 instances of child abuse materials while Facebook reported 84,000,000 but that somehow they're the ones being threatened to be shutdown unless they implement more rules.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 20 hours ago

I think it has to do with women being trafficked into cam service.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Im going to assume OnlyFans doesn’t do that because they want to. They’d likely be harassed by government if they didn’t.

Only partially.

They don't legally have to require you to do social media. All they're legally required to do is to verify that you're a consenting adult. In that respect, I get that they require a form of ID and a photo.

But the social media stuff is something they pretend to require to add an extra layer of legitimacy to your account, and make extra-sure you're not a fraud. It's of course complete bullshit. They only do this to collect data.

And don't think for a second you can open an empty Facebook account and tell them "Here's my social media account": they want an old account with lots of real activity. And only certain types social media accounts are accepted. In fact, they're very heavily biased towards you having a Facebook account, and it's a lot more difficult to validate your OnlyFans account with anything other than a Facebook account.

They're in cahoots with Facebook on the social media verification scam. I believe a good portion of their revenue stream is deanonymizing sex workers and selling their data.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago

What about Fansly?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

If I remember correctly the pressure came from credit card companies and not any government.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

I'd sell a lot more than that for riches.

[–] Grimy 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It's to keep kids off the website and even with all that, there's already been cases. I think they dont do enough tbh.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Fortunately some places have zero knowledge proofs where you can prove you're of age without giving your identity

[–] [email protected] 1 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Doesn’t that just hand the privacy issue over to another company?

[–] [email protected] 1 points 19 hours ago

If by company you mean the government, yes. But they already have your info by necessity

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

They need all that to be able to give you your money.
It's how you get paid.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 1 day ago (2 children)

They don't need to know under which name I access Facebook to pay me.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

It's not like you're using your personal social accounts for this stuff.
You're not going to want your friends and family anywhere near it.

Only Fans want to know your public social accounts. The ones that are part of your "Brand", that would drive your "Business". That's what matters.
If you're worried about privacy on those accounts, you're doing it all wrong.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 day ago

You have to. Facebook doesn't allow you to have multiple accounts. If they suspect otherwise (even if they're wrong), they'll just delete your account

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

And you don't need to provide them with it, either. A friend of mine does OF, and has had no such requirement to verify her social media. Unless this is a new requirement that existing members aren't obligated to go through, or required for a specific feature of the OF platform, then I believe providing them that info is otherwise optional.