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If I was to find my wife way earlier, wouldn't that alter the possibility of us ending up together?
Not only that but imagine how hard you’d have to work at not creeping them out with how much you know about them.
My wife and I have been together for the majority of our lives. We met when we were teenagers and now we’re well into our 40s. I’ve got a sneaking feeling that if I went back and tried to romance her I’d be a terrible partner. Either I’d creep her tf out or I worry current me is too impatient.
Also, as a side note I get that ick vibe thinking about the mental age gap
This is something I think about a lot.
Part of me would love to go back and redo high school.or college and just be a better student, learn more, and flirt with girls more (although now that you mention it the age thing would make it weird, you're right). But I end up at the same conclusion - it wouldn't be worth not meeting and marrying my wife.
It'd be so difficult to meet her again (we met on Tinder) and to make it so she's interested in dating me. And then the relationship would be so one sided because I'd know every intimate detail of her past and she'd know nothing of mine.
So, I eventually come to the conclusion that nothing I could do in the past is worth risking her.