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How much do you think gender matters on Lemmy? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 2 months ago by multicolorKnight to c/asklemmy

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I personally don't think it matters much at all, except in channels that specifically identify that way. However, I am male, hetero, cis, so its possible I'm just clueless.

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[–] RBWells 22 points 2 months ago (2 children)

I'm a lady and haven't had any trouble here. The only place I really notice how ridiculously male - skewed Lemmy is, is on the NSFW. That is definitely all "male gaze" stuff, with the occasional actual lesbian also posting stuff guys like. Even the posts OF men are FOR men, everything posted with some assumption only men are looking at the posts.

The other communities just aren't so gendered, I don't notice much whether someone seems to be one or the other, it isn't relevant to cocktails or cooking or gardening or science fiction.

[+] [email protected] -21 points 2 months ago (1 children)

The only place I really notice how ridiculously male - skewed Lemmy is, is on the NSFW. That is definitely all “male gaze” stuff, with the occasional actual lesbian also posting stuff guys like. Even the posts OF men are FOR men, everything posted with some assumption only men are looking at the posts.

That sounds like a you problem. Everyone like to look at sexy ladies.

[–] idiomaddict 4 points 2 months ago (1 children)

You misunderstand. Lots of women like to “look at sexy ladies,” but the things that turn men and women on in pornography are different (this should not be a surprise if you’ve sexually engaged with a member of the opposition sex). They’re noting that they didn’t find anything aimed at women, which is reflective of the gender demographics here.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

the things that turn men and women on in pornography are different

Good point.

(this should not be a surprise if you’ve sexually engaged with a member of the opposition sex).

Don't be a dick, Lemmy user. You made a good point. Don't ruin it.

[–] idiomaddict 6 points 2 months ago

Not everyone is straight, I wasn’t digging at you for inexperience.