A few of my kids' friends are trans, and their parents give them a really hard time for it. And I can't understand why. As long as my kid isn't an asshole I don't honestly care how they look. I want a connection with them more than I want them to fit some standard I've set in my head.

I feel bad for their parents because their kids are awesome and they're missing out on it.

[–] [email protected] 53 points 3 months ago

My brother has been supportive of me being trans from day one. Like explicitly and openly supportive. His kid is trans and my brother is just not supportive of them at all. I don't get it he actively fights them on it. I don't get why he thinks it's okay to support me but then tell his kid they're not actually trans. There's something that some parents have where they refuse to see their kids in a different light than they expected

[–] [email protected] 43 points 3 months ago

And I can't understand why.

Because some parents are assholes.

[–] [email protected] 42 points 3 months ago (1 children)

im cis af

i like my genitals and body shape and i consider myself lucky for having a brain that matches my body

but i don't understand why theres so much hatred for people who dont feel that way.

If i had a vagina instead of a penis, and a curvy lady body instead of my chunky man bod, would i not still be myself?

Worthy of respect, worthy of love, full of ideas and dreams and stupid jokes....am i not still a person in this scenario?

Its my body. i grew it myself.

I will do whatever i god damn well please with it, because its MINE.

Im not trans but im an ally and if yall need one more fist in the fight, lemme know

[–] PugJesus 16 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I was never really anti trans, but I had a bit of trouble understanding the social aspects of transitioning when I was younger. "I feel like an alien in my own body; I would like to change it please" I got just fine, but who cared if society thought you were a man or a woman? Fuck society. As a cis male, I'd never particularly had to fight (or been particularly attached to) my gender identity. Til someone brought up a part of my identity that is dear to me, and asked me to imagine how it would feel if every time someone used a pronoun to refer to me, they were saying "You are not X".

That got through to me. It's a potent mix of rage and despair.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 months ago

I don’t understand it, either. But I realized it’s not my burden as a cis person. What is my burden is accepting and appreciating everyone for who they are, no matter what part of the LGBT+ spectrum they fall.

In the late 90’s, the battle was for my gay buddies. I remember one dude and his dad beat up a friend of mine. We knew he was gay and likely the dad found him and his son doing what gay people do and instead chose to beat my friend up. We went back to his house and threw rebar concrete through their windows and smashed up their cars. Statue of limitation is up, so it doesn’t matter about talking about it. Was also 15 at the time.

People who hate and commit acts of violence against others deserve what happens to them. Fuck those people who can’t accept someone because they feel like a prisoner in their own body. Did my fair share of shoving over the “I hate gay” crowd and will gladly fight these next group of assholes.

[–] [email protected] 29 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

You probably don't have a fundamentally authoritarian mindset. Being authoritarian in parenting is correlated to authoritarian politics:

[Prof. Jonathan Weiler] told me that the study of authoritarianism is several decades long and, interestingly, that over time the way social scientists identified authoritarianism evolved to asking questions about parenting. He said, “What makes these questions interesting is that they are not really about parenting, they are more about people’s idealized understanding of social order or social hierarchy. Asking about parenting is more a way to get people to think about this.”

Remember this when you see flyers or such that say "the government is trying to take away your parental right to decide what your child reads or learns". It's wrapped in the language of Freedom(tm), but the end goal is to tightly control what their child is allowed to do.

Fascism begins at home.

[–] Semi_Hemi_Demigod 12 points 3 months ago

I'm an anarchist so that tracks

[–] Xanis 10 points 3 months ago

Pride and projection, with a healthy cultural component. It usually takes a generation for values to catch up. Not much different than the asian dad stereotype, except with a primarily physical component.