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Is it normal for men to be propositioned by swingers, and what makes a man an attractive candidate to swinger couples? (lemmy.autism.place)

submitted 4 months ago by [email protected] to c/asklemmy

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I have been propositioned by swingers quite a bit. It's to the point that if a couple is nice to me, I start getting suspicious. This has happened with acquaintances, long-time friends, people I've met at a party, co-workers, and even strangers at the beach. Three times that I can remember off the top of my head, they propositioned me and my girlfriend at the time (separate girls many years apart). Is this a normal thing? What about me could make me attractive to swinger couples?

I'm a cis-gendered straight male. As far as physical attractiveness, I would say I'm slightly above average based on what women have told me and how they treat me.

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[–] bulwark 78 points 4 months ago (3 children)

Maybe stop wearing that 🍍 shirt.

[–] [email protected] 40 points 4 months ago (2 children)

An upside-down pineapple specifically signals that someone is a swinger or is looking for swinger parties. This association likely stems from the fruit's historical connotations of wealth and welcome, evolving into a discreet way for swingers to identify each other in public or at events. Displaying a pineapple, especially upside down, can indicate an invitation to join in on swinging activities or parties

TIL

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

But … but my grandma’s specialty was pineapple upside-down cake??

[–] [email protected] 6 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Didn't you think it was weird, that she would go to "play golf", but never bring any clubs?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago (1 children)

She had a magnet on her fridge that said “I’m done with love. Fortunately there’s still sex”

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

lmao I’m also remembering she had another one that said “Sex is my favorite sport. It’s free, it’s fun, and you don’t need special shoes”

Grandma!

[–] Dkarma 2 points 4 months ago

That's funny ..I have a ton of pineapple clothes

[–] cannedtuna 39 points 4 months ago (3 children)

My buddy got a pineapple tattooed on his arm that appears upside down when his arm hangs down. He was not aware of the meaning it carried. 😂

[–] hemmes 12 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

Oh man, I totally understand the humor in that, lol! You should post what it means so that others in the thread will know like we both know!

[–] [email protected] 8 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

Has it affected the way he is treated by others?

[–] cannedtuna 11 points 4 months ago

Don’t think so. I just think he’s had some swingers hit him up thinking he’s into it. He thinks it’s pretty funny now.

If you look at the dudes house he’s got pineapples everywhere, like art pieces and stuff, so it’s pretty on brand for him.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago

Now that he knows:

Did you have a question, sir?

[–] cybervseas 6 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Oh my god, I have a pineapple shirt, love pointing it out to people because I find it exciting. I just like it because I think it's silly (I have a lobster shirt too). This explains some things.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago (2 children)

What does the lobster shirt mean?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

Butt stuff

[–] cybervseas 2 points 4 months ago

That I like wearing silly collared button up shirts? I also have a white shirt with tiny tiny black skulls on it.