No. It's not appropriate to take someone's joyful conversation about their experiences and shift the focus to you and your past trauma. It's an incredibly shitty thing to do.

To be clear; The previous comment was not a response to OP, it's a response to people that overshadow/intentionally bring down other peoples happiness with their past traumas. Like the humanoid character in the image did.

An alternative to having lazers shoot from your eyes.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 7 months ago (1 children)

It's not appropriate to take someone's joyful conversation about their experiences and shift the focus to you and your past trauma. It's an incredibly shitty thing to do.

Correct. That's why I called it oversharing and rude.

Calling it victimizing someone is just overreach, especially without significantly more context. Comparing being annoyed at something someone said online that was thoughtless and rude to being a victim of someone is trivializing IMO.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (3 children)

The context you are missing is that these interactions aren't limited to strangers or the internet, and typically form a pattern of regular behaviour vs just a one off comment.

A person is a victim of and suffers from the effects of their own traumatic experiences and instead of learning to deal with them and heal, they induce others to suffer some those effects as well; thus turning others into victims of that same trauma.

It's not as big and dramatic as a murder, but it's still victimization.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 7 months ago

I don't see what you're saying as being on that page at all (admittedly I did not read the section about victimization in Kazakhstan)

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago

I might be misremembering here since it’s been a while since I’ve seen this image make the rounds, but I thought the original artist made this specifically about online interactions (which, now that I’m rereading the image itself, isn’t immediately clear).