this post was submitted on 12 May 2024
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The number of examples I have seen of people being told to shut up about their lived experiences with sexual abuse in the past 24 hours on this platform is deeply disturbing.

I am calling on y’all to take a deep breath and listen to women for once. There is a time and place for tone policing and it’s never the very minute a woman speaks up.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)
[–] Linkerbaan 1 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago) (1 children)

That's what I mean.

The real reaction from this person is "hey wait, a bear is literally going to kill you and I am not. Demonizing all men into being worse than bears is not invoking sympathy".

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 months ago (1 children)

You are taking an expression of fear and hurt and taking it personally. A tip: It’s not personal. Don’t take it personally. Listen, and then move on.

[–] Linkerbaan 1 points 4 months ago

It doesn't personally hurt me I'm just explaining why a message like this will not resonate with men that did not already resonate with it.

When a generalization is made a person will self-insert if they fit the group. In this case a man that does not believe they are more harmful than a bear will find it unjust they are painted as worse than a bear.