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Why so many people make decisions based on emotion only, willfully disregarding scientific reasoning.
Super emotional behavior in general.
A lot of people are seemingly completely unable or unwilling to take a step back from their own position and look at a situation at least slightly more rationally. Everything is only seen and interpreted as how it affects them.
The cashier is not super friendly? Must be, that he's an asshole, can't be that he just had a bad day.
There's a minor inconvenience to me because of some public good? Well, fuck the public, I want mine.
An argument with a friend, and I'm already angry? Better get even more angry and start screaming, that'll show him!
I make lot of decisions on emotions too. The joy of helping people. The pain of seeing others suffer. Admiration of what people create. Fear for someones safety. Anger of hearing about unfairness.
What I don't get is why so many of these "emotional" people dont seem to have any emotions like that. How is it to live like that? Only living with emotions like fear for oneself and oneself only? This isn't a fight between logic on one side and emotion on the other. Not science versus beliefs either. It is empathy versus greed. The only emotion these assholes has is a fear of losing whats "theirs", I'm pretty sure. And if scientific reasoning says its smart to share, of course they disregard it.
We evolved in a climate where that reasoning worked well for our speciesβ expansion. The amount of time weβve had written language is only a blink of an eye compared to our species history, so of course we are maladapted to the modern world.
People who donβt use emotional thinking are the exception rather than the rule.
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The obsession with what other people do with their lives. I like to be left alone, mind my own business, not bother others. But there seems to be some part of the population that is the opposite and just can't help but poke and pry at others.
Its because there are some that believe that their freedom does not encroach on the freedoms of other, and need a polite reminder that their actions have consequences, and that we're all part of a larger whole, no matter how much we pretend otherwise.
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There are people that destroy things with no benefit to themselves or do things that hurt themselves just because it hurt who they consider to be "the right people."
It's like shouting into the void expecting an echo. If you can't change the world for the better at least leave a mark. At least that was how I felt trashing a park bench when I was 13. It's probably the same trail of thought.
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Why people hurt others / rip others off. I don't understand that lack of empathy.
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Our inability to learn from other people's mistakes is staggering and bizarre.
Or more poetically, I think the thing I understand least about humanity, is why it understands itself so poorly.
There's parts you understand?
The way we destroy everything in the long term for short term gains. If our goal is to not die out, we are doing it wrong. Its like we're speed running extinction.
whys it gotta be like that
That so many people feel the need to force other well-functioning people under their own religious or non-religious moral code.
WHAT IS SO FUCKING HARD ABOUT THE ZIPPER MERGE?!?
Do you motherfuckers REALLY think you're a defender of traffic justice when you're attempting to run people off the road for using a designated lane?
How is it that some people are completely unable to look beyond their own perspective
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The broad commitment to obsolete ideas.
Why do so many folks carry so much hatred inside... it's so self-destructive and detrimental to society.
Prison sex. Not literally that's just a song by Tool, but basically someone hurt me so I'm gonna hurt you.
They aren't bright enough to figure out that just continues the cycle.
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Harm done to them by other people, and justifiably and rationally looking for answers to how/why/what/where/when/who, so they can make the harm less likely to be repeated in the future by altering their behavior appropriately.
With special emphasis on the "who", because it's easier, when they should be focusing on the "how" and "why". The "why" part is the most important, but also hardest to tackle.
Right on the money. Psychologically, the best defense is a good offense. Socially, it's not the best choice for building communities.
The cruelty.
Why "human nature" takes a higher priority than "common sense".
Human history is rife with people fueling vicious cycles, most notably surrounding conflicts between certain groups of people like we see today. These cycles are excused under the crutch of "human nature" but wouldn't exist if those people stepped back and thought "wait a minute".
When I was little, me and my siblings were taught that our outcomes are our responsibility and that our physical/neurological/psychological shortcomings are no excuse for a member of society, so when I see someone talk about someone having done something wrong and say "it's only human nature", I just want to say "dude, I'm a woman with several medical conditions and yet you're worse than I am if you use the plain fact that someone is human to justify their behavior".
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Everyone seems to need instant gratification in every aspect of life. No one seems capable of thinking for more than 25 seconds into the future. The pervasive culture of "Fuck you, got mine", and the rat race to the almighty dollar. I don't get it, it's sad, and it's the driving force behind not wanting children. The world sucks, and I want to reduce suffering.
Well...there are a lot of things I don't understand, but maybe I'm just weird in that way :)) I don't understand why some people accept that what they know at this moment is enough and don't try to learn new stuff and be better tomorrow than they are now. I don't understand why some people choose to ignore creativity and event think that creative people are childish or even stupid. And also, I don't understand why lots of people choose to be jackasses and act accordingly to others when it would be so easy do not do this.
I was thinking last night how weird it is that we can suspend disbelief while watching a movie. Like, we see Tom Cruise on screen and know he's the most famous person in the world and we saw him alive on TV today, yet we get worried that he's gonna die in a ten year old movie?
People that sit in air conditioned offices and do 3 hours of work all day get paid more than people who work on the factory floor for 12 hours with minimal breaks. Makes no sense.
Something something "you're paid more for what ya know/your expertise on something vs just being an easily replacable cog in a machine".
Not saying I agree with it all that much, but I think that's the general idea, anyways.
It takes more work to get the 3hour job, so the job itself is easier. It takes less work to get the 12hour job, so the job is harder.
Less people can get to the "easier" job, so those people are seen as more valuable.
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One of the many myriad things I don't understand is why humans don't think of themselves as organisms. Like they know they can train dogs to do things with positive reinforcement but don't think other people do that to them. Or if someone did it's some kind of insult.
At least in the West,. Christianity played a part in that.
Things like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy have been changing that though
There's a weird disconnect between humans and nature in general.
It's against the law to let animals suffer to death in cases of injury, sickness, etc. Euthanasia is almost mandated. But the same thing for humans is a horrible crime, even if the person explicitly asked for it. That's insane.
Why do people insert fragile glass objects into holes?
Oh so you think you're too cool for that? You've never looked at a jar and thought "I wonder what that would feel like in my ass?"
The urge to conquer-war
everything
"The current American imagination seems utterly unable to understand acts of kindness require greater heroism than acts of violence." -Sarah Manvel
fear of the unknown.
the superman-paranoia effect. something like if there's a being out there that has super abilities and uses it to help others, governments would still reign this person in just-in-case he goes rogue.
Yes.
Why do people tap their breaks in the left lane when passing someone slower on the right?
Please stop. Tap your breaks if you're signaling something going on in front, or if you need to slow down faster than just taking your foot off the gas will slow you.
Why are you braking?! I find myself asking that out loud at the driver in front of me too many times. Sometimes I see drivers in other lanes doing it too. It's as if they were driving a runaway vehicle that accelerates on its own.
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