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AITA for not using headphones? (lemmy.ml)

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I eat lunch in the cafeteria at work. Sometimes i like to watch videos of cats doing funny things on youtube during my break. The thing is, i don't wear headphones and sometimes people give me looks. AITA for watching videos in the cafeteria without headphones?

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[–] Rhoeri 45 points 10 months ago

100% yes.

[–] Junkers_Klunker 41 points 10 months ago (1 children)

Absolutely yes, how in considerate do you have to be to not realize that most people do not want to listen to your video during their break.

[+] [email protected] -19 points 10 months ago (2 children)

what about folks having conversation during break? i imagine your response would be the same for this because most people don't wanna hear you talk about your weekend with a coworker

[–] [email protected] 29 points 10 months ago

Every person involved in a conversation has to be able to hear each other speak. The only one listening to your videos is you.

If you had earphones, you wouldn't need to listen to their discussion anyway, as the earphones would take care of both problems simultaneously, making you the only one that hears your videos, and making sure you can't hear other people's conversations.

Being considerate won't get you noticed, but being inconsiderate certainly will, in all the wrong ways.

[–] Carnelian 16 points 10 months ago

If they’re being loud or obnoxious then yes that is rude. But the vast majority of people are not disturbed by normal background chatter. In fact the opposite is true, many people are so comforted by the human voice that they listen to podcasts to fall asleep.

Whereas listening to a video out loud is always obnoxious and disruptive. Especially when there are numerous inexpensive ways for you to avoid doing it (headphones, eat somewhere else, mute and rely on captions, do something on your phone besides watch a video)

[–] [email protected] 33 points 10 months ago

yes.

[–] SomeKindaName 30 points 10 months ago (1 children)

You're an asshole.

[–] Transcendant 24 points 10 months ago

You're not an asshole, you're just inconsiderate. If you were an asshole, you wouldn't be asking for the advice of strangers and even considering that you're in the wrong.

Wear headphones, or watch the vids on mute. You can imagine the "Mrrreow" and "Prrph?" noises they make

[–] [email protected] 23 points 10 months ago

Yes

[–] [email protected] 18 points 10 months ago

Yes

[–] [email protected] 17 points 10 months ago

Already been answered, but just want to clarify:

Yes

[–] [email protected] 16 points 10 months ago

Yea. Stop that.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 10 months ago

The fact you need to ask this makes me wonder what other ways you are an asshole.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 10 months ago

Yeah you dumbass.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Afraid so, but I appreciate that you’re thinking about it enough to ask here. We all do obnoxious stuff sometimes. Still, don’t make other people listen to the videos you’re watching.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 10 months ago

Yes

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) (1 children)

idk why the topic is being down voted. down voting topics makes people not want to share their experiences with the community

[–] morphballganon 2 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

Imagine if you had to endure listening to your coworker watch some crap you didn't care about. That coworker must be a jerk, right? Assuming you want to be forced to hear their crap? You're just trying to eat your lunch, man. Why's your coworker gotta make everyone's day harder than it already is?

Do you understand now?

[–] hedgehogging_the_bed 7 points 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago)

In a public setting, the only people who should be able to hear a video are the people who agreed to watch it.

If you are the only one watching something you need to use headphones so only you can hear it.

If you are showing it to a friend then you use the speakers with low volume so two people seated closely can hear it but someone at the next table cannot.

Remember the people working there serving the food and the others eating there did not ask to watch the video and should not need to hear it because they cannot or do not want to watch it with you.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 10 months ago

No.

Just kidding you're flipping clueless: yes.

[–] rhacer 4 points 10 months ago

Yes

[–] [email protected] 3 points 10 months ago

You don't need to spend a bunch of money to not be annoying in public. Good-enough Earbuds are like 30 dollars.

[–] LaunchesKayaks 3 points 10 months ago

Yes. People listening to shit without headphones around others is one of my biggest pet peeves

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

Yes.
You are like the annoying person in the cafeteria drowning out me listening to Hungarian folk-punk on speaker.