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[–] [email protected] 28 points 1 year ago (5 children)

Actually yeah, why is interacting with new people so hard?

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

For me it's probably definitely because of the 'tism

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

See, I'm beginning to wonder if my ADHD may be part of a two for one deal. I definitely have some traits on top of it that are more in line with the autistic spectrum.

Not being comfortable with new people and new places, in fact being afraid of having to go to new places to the point where I sabotage myself to have an excuse not to go. Especially if those places are sensory overload, like any big city.

Just thinking about the possibility of having to move to a city one day can fill me with so much dread I get all sweaty and feel sick.

That shit's not typical, is it.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

There is a lot of overlap with the two and do frequently go together. I definitely got the two for one going one. #NeuroSpicy

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I'll talk to my neurodoc about it, those are things that make my life so much harder than it needs to be

[–] [email protected] 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Interact with me. Now. This is a threat.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Uh, hi there, what's poppin?

I was about to go to bed though, so not much interaction to be done, unless you want to cuddle

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

internet transmitted cuddles, my favorite

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

I'd prefer real cuddles, but I'll take what I can get

[–] PunnyName 8 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Familiarity breeds comfort. This is an evolutionary trick of the brain.

That which is unfamiliar must be either avoided, or dubiously approached, for the safety of the self and community.

The opposite, the Mere Exposure Effect, breeds the aforementioned comfort. Spend more time with something or someone, learn of its safety, eventually enjoy it.

[–] whileloop 6 points 1 year ago

Probably because we're too comfortable interacting with online strangers with the protection of semi-anonymity.

[–] complacent_jerboa 5 points 1 year ago

Because you have to get to know them better first.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Sure, but I'll need to force myself to use vc.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 year ago

no worries, i pretty much never use vc myself. ive got FAST finger to type in chat with maximum efficiency

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

yeah I get that lol