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Actually yeah, why is interacting with new people so hard?
For me it's probably definitely because of the 'tism
See, I'm beginning to wonder if my ADHD may be part of a two for one deal. I definitely have some traits on top of it that are more in line with the autistic spectrum.
Not being comfortable with new people and new places, in fact being afraid of having to go to new places to the point where I sabotage myself to have an excuse not to go. Especially if those places are sensory overload, like any big city.
Just thinking about the possibility of having to move to a city one day can fill me with so much dread I get all sweaty and feel sick.
That shit's not typical, is it.
There is a lot of overlap with the two and do frequently go together. I definitely got the two for one going one. #NeuroSpicy
I'll talk to my neurodoc about it, those are things that make my life so much harder than it needs to be
Interact with me. Now. This is a threat.
Uh, hi there, what's poppin?
I was about to go to bed though, so not much interaction to be done, unless you want to cuddle
internet transmitted cuddles, my favorite
I'd prefer real cuddles, but I'll take what I can get
Familiarity breeds comfort. This is an evolutionary trick of the brain.
That which is unfamiliar must be either avoided, or dubiously approached, for the safety of the self and community.
The opposite, the Mere Exposure Effect, breeds the aforementioned comfort. Spend more time with something or someone, learn of its safety, eventually enjoy it.
Probably because we're too comfortable interacting with online strangers with the protection of semi-anonymity.
Because you have to get to know them better first.