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There’s definitely some additional nuance (like a pronouns in bio/username situation) but this should cover the broad needs of anyone who is approaching this with good faith.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 hours ago

I hate "he or she" so much. JUST SAY THEY. It sounds so clunky.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago (1 children)

Can we just start misgendering republicans?

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 hours ago

no that is the tool of the enemy we have no need of it

[–] [email protected] 7 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

And then i use they and they get offended that i didnt use their preffered pronoun(true both for stupid conservatives and for some trans people who just have to try to ruin 10 years of progress in gender neutral pronouns)

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 hours ago

Calling someone they/them when you don't know their pronouns is fine, and them being upset doesn't ruin anything for anyone else. Neither you nor they are harming "10 years of progress in gender neutral pronouns" as you put it. What a strange narrative.

[–] ThatGuy46475 62 points 1 day ago (1 children)

How to choose the correct pronouns

[–] qarbone 10 points 15 hours ago* (last edited 15 hours ago)

I followed this one chart and was instantly promoted to CFO.

We really did great work designing this fantastic flowchart.

[–] Rhoeri 2 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

I don’t understand why this is so difficult for some people. It’s not like a whole lot has changed right?. Most everyone have already been using they/them for quite some time. The only different being is now, it’s best not to assume gender and default to they/them until asked otherwise.

The way I see it is If these people are able to make the incredibly mind-bogglingly difficult transition from who they once were, to who they are now- including not just facing, but overcoming the emotional, physical, and social challenges- in compassion, it’s should take little effort for anyone to transition their use of pronouns to properly accommodate them.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 13 hours ago (2 children)

Most everyone have already been using they/them for quite some time.

For singular when speaking about someone who is cis? I think you might be in a bubble.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 hours ago

It's been done for centuries

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 hours ago

From what I know, Shakespeare did that, so it might be you who is in a bubble.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Use their name, if you know it.

[–] Klear 9 points 1 day ago

They/them it is!

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[–] Wizard_Pope 23 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (18 children)

Well my language does not have a neutral pronoun so this just does not work.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Turkish has 1 gender neutral pronoun, the only pronoun in the whole language

[–] [email protected] 1 points 5 hours ago

Only one pronoun???

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Nope, the allt right hate they too now. Make a new apologist flow chart that are regime approved mate

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[–] [email protected] 48 points 1 day ago

Also, if you mistakenly use the wrong pronouns, apologize and respect their wishes.

We’re humans after all, and mistakes happens. No one is asking you to be perfect. People just want you to be a decent person.

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