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Can any straight man here explain what they like and why they like boobs so much? Like, what makes them attractive and why? Is it the size? Shape? Or The way they jiggle?

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[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 4 hours ago
[โ€“] daggermoon 8 points 6 hours ago

Our dumb monkey brains just like them. It's all of those things you mentioned.

[โ€“] [email protected] 6 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Boobs look like they're drops of water, just about to drip. So there's a certain anticipation there. Our brains are wired to predict where action and movement is going to be.

[โ€“] StanislavP 2 points 5 hours ago

That is the first time i've heard that. Not sure about it, but sounds like it could be true. Interesting nonetheless.

[โ€“] UnhingedFridge 4 points 12 hours ago

I try to avoid paying them any attention unless someone wants me to look at or touch them thanks to the implication. Most of the time it's just a place where I shouldn't look, so it gets a little awkward in my head when someone has on a graphic tee that I want to read or look at.

Something to work around most of the time, but then can make a partner happy when they are appreciated as themselves when vulnerable enough to bare that much, which adds a little special dynamic that gets the brain chemicals doing their thing.

[โ€“] recentSloth43 18 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Humans are the only mammals with boobs that stay "inflated" without childbirth or breastfeeding involved.

The theory is that it's an evolutionary selection, and the hypothesis is it's an aesthetic choice that keeps reinforcing itself (a positive feedback loop) and now it's HotWired in our brains.

The way i personally see it though, just like how i like certain types of food without a proper explanation to why, i also like boobs.

There's also the idea it's connected to being breastfed as a baby which brings back all those warm and safety feelings with them. That doesn't explain why most women (I speculate) aren't as into boobs as the average guy. That said, I've met multiple women, some straight,who also found boobs very fascinating. So maybe they get the same warm and safety feelings minus the sexual attraction?

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 11 hours ago

You might be on to something. I was not breast fed, and I'm not a boob person in particular.

Now we have to wait for another anecdote from someone that was breastfed.

[โ€“] [email protected] 10 points 20 hours ago

The biological hypothesis is that they look like an ass on your chest. Asses are visually arousing for males for what I hope are obvious reasons.

[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 18 hours ago

because they are the soft warm and sweet examples of life

[โ€“] GrammarPolice 21 points 1 day ago
[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 14 hours ago

i wouldn't say i like boobs. I don't go out of my way to look for them. for me, its about if my partner finds something pleasing during a intimate moment.

[โ€“] [email protected] 11 points 1 day ago

Just something compelling about them. All shapes and sizes

[โ€“] Yokozuna 3 points 21 hours ago

I think it just goes back to two main things. Being breast fed as a child, you grow to depend and love on the boob, so it's kind of baked into our genetics to some degree. Secondly the Church basically sexualized boobs and are considered taboo private parts most people aren't supposed to see so that gives it some sort of allure that you're seeing something your not supposed to, which in American culture is pretty much the norm. Think of how ankles were such a thing to flaunt not that long ago at all. Some cultures just outright don't care about boobs and just let em hang out so I really just feel like it boils down to culture for most of it.

Past all of that, and personally, a nicely resting boob is just a great sight. Something about the curves and seeing the body in its natural form idk. Also, squishy, they're great to just have a hand on and give a good squish every now and then.

[โ€“] random_character_a 24 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I think there's a similar attraction to all erogenous areas, but due to cultural reasons breasts are ones that are always covered and their uncovering signals intimacy.

Favoring big breasts is mostly a cultural thing with some links to biological instincts that I wouldn't give much weight to.

"Jiggling" transfers information about their structure and your brain can create a model on their "feel" without touching.

[โ€“] [email protected] 77 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Life is hard and boobs are soft.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 4 hours ago

Best answer

[โ€“] BenLeMan 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm not seeing a lot of mentions of nipples here. So for me, size is pretty much secondary. Nice, prominent nipples are sure to get my attention, though.

[โ€“] Sea_pop 1 points 18 hours ago

Even on a man, nice nipples are the piece of the pie.

I think you're onto something here.

[โ€“] [email protected] 20 points 1 day ago* (last edited 21 hours ago)

They are soft, easy to grab, and they belong to an attractive person's body at large, which makes them an amazing tactile experience overall.

On the looks, they greatly complement the hourglass shapes, which are very harmonious and pleasing.

[โ€“] [email protected] 79 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Honestly? I often ponder this. It's amusing when you consider how enamored we are with bosoms.

I've heard it described that "Woman is the most beautiful shape in the human consciousness." And that stuck with me.

My wife often catches me gawking and thinks it's weird but I'm just like "You're just amazing. All of you. Everything about you." I feel like an idiot because I can't explain what the heck I actually mean.

It's just hard to fathom how a single being can be so... naturally aesthetic!

Women are just awesome. As a visual artist myself, I totally understand the compulsion to depict cute/pretty/happy/sexy ladies all the time. Heck, some artists do this exclusively. Variety is the spice of life, artists, but I get it. ๐Ÿ˜‚

I think we're coded to enjoy rounded elegant shapes, but there's something enchanting about femininity as a whole, and boobs and butts signal "feminine!!" to our brains.

Also I'd say size and such really doesn't matter. I think the really fascinating thing is the sheer variety, to the point they're unique to the woman as an individual person. And it has nothing to do with biological essentialism! (Tiny boobs are just as good at feeding young as ginormous ones)

It's also a bit cultural, I think. They're so obvious, yet hidden in polite company. So seeing them exposed feels like you have an intimate window into this person's world, and you feel special for the privilege, I suppose.

Lol now I feel like a weirdo, typing this all out. Does that help? LOL

[โ€“] mineralfellow 12 points 1 day ago

I have spent the last 12 years trying to convince my wife that I am not trying to trick her. I really do think she is that beautiful.

[โ€“] [email protected] 29 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Straight male here. This response is excellent.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 17 hours ago

Hey, that means a lot. Thanks! :)

[โ€“] [email protected] 96 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Not straight, and not a man, but I just think they're neat! There really doesn't need to be a "why" to attraction, sometimes your brain just sees something and goes "yes"

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[โ€“] [email protected] 47 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Everybody likes boobs. They are the first positive thing we are introduced to in life.

The inprint is strong.

[โ€“] Meltrax 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Damn. I do that all the time. Never can remember the right way around.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 37 points 1 day ago

More or less an instinct I think. That is how I was able to tell I was starting puberty, that I started to imagine and want to see and touch naked breasts of the women and girls around me. I myself didn't have an explanation why, but that was now more than half my life ago and it hasn't stopped.

I don't have strong preferences as to shape and size. Small breasts are still breasts.

[โ€“] [email protected] 52 points 1 day ago (11 children)

Gay woman

Small ones are cute and bite sized, big ones are squishy pillows. Regardless of size, they're all soft and cute.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 13 points 1 day ago

Boobies make good pillows.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

So soft yet so firm.

[โ€“] devfuuu 18 points 1 day ago (5 children)

at the beginning there was only ass. when humans still walked in 4 legs, the sexual thing they saw in front was ass cheeks. then humans went and started to walk on 2 legs. humans evolved and developed basically boobs so they were at eye level and attract the males.

boobs are the cheap version of ass.

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[โ€“] Dr_Box 18 points 1 day ago

All three of those things. On a subconscious primal level though it means nutrition for babies

[โ€“] [email protected] 18 points 1 day ago

I don't know, probably for the same reason others like other things. Chemical reactions, probably?

[โ€“] [email protected] 10 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Firmware. It's not a logical rational decision. Years of evolution I guess? There is embedded code in our brains that see tatas and we go ape.

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[โ€“] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

All of that. It makes a mesmerizing movement that I would just like to keep looking at.

[โ€“] [email protected] 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I don't know why. But I like small firm boobs.. Seeing their shapes through clothes is the sexiest to me.

I remember how I thought about this before I went into puberty though. I had no interests in girls at all. And I remember wondering when that would happen.

Then it did happen and boobs became very sexy. So I guess it's just chemicals in our brains/body causing it.

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