Asklemmy

I'm an admin for a relatively busy instance, so I see all of the bigotry, and there is more of it than I'm comfortable with :\

There's a lot of bigots out there that have moved over from reddit.

A comment on my other account got brigaded by tankies a while ago. Was told to "fuck off, liberal"

But then that guy got banned from the instance, and everything was good.

I think everyone I've encountered has been very polite. Well, except the one person who said my crochet project looked like Chewbacca shit. Jokes on them - i didn't buy the wookie yarn; i bought the Groot yarn and they just can't tell the difference.

Yes, I discussed with an andrew tate fan that asked "why do people get angry when I don't respect pronouns of trans people" or something to that effect, a real shit stain but I think he got banned after a few hours

Deleting the thread out from under you is usually bad behaviour, but in the one instance it happened to me the chap was entirely right to do so - he'd left his exif location data in the image. Still, the hedgehog pic was good enough to be posted again, which I did.

Political stuff is as enflamed as ever. I'll take the beans over that any day.

I've seen a few people, here and there, trying to test the limits and finding very quickly that they're not going to get very far.

There's this one commie user who I always end up getting into an argument with. I don't mind though because they actually seem to be intelligent and I like to hear what they have to say.

Ooooohh we've got plenty. lol

One thing about the Fediverse is its a little less "singular" so to speak. People spread out a little more, and you get fewer bigger places where a whole lot of people mingle.

The fascist kids and the tankie kids both have Instances of their own, fairly heavily defederated with a lot of the rest. They're about as pleasant as you'd expect.

I posted a dumb meme about my power going out and my neighbors using the car for AC, and I had some guy screaming at me that I was lying about my power going out because they couldn't find it on the internet, then when I posted a screenshot of my app that shows my power outages, they started screaming that I was a toxic person for not inviting them in my house. When I pointed out the irony of them being toxic, they essentially said it's different when they do it because it's online, but I'm toxic in person, which somehow makes me worse.

Even though it was just a fucking meme in the first place. The power did go out, but no one was dying in the streets or anything.

Oh, and then someone posted a picture in a comment of someone taking a shit on someone else.

If you don’t hate Twitter, Reddit, Threads you must love them and are the enemy.

Lots of us vs them hate on this platform like many others. You arnt allowed to have a nuanced opinion or conversation about some things.

There is plenty of rudeness, hostility, and general toxicity and bigotry to go around. But there is also a lot of kindness, thoughtful consideration, and people who want to do the best for the platform and communities forming here.

I feel like the amount of more challenging or unwanted behaviour has gone up just in the time I've been here (hopefully not because of me!). From hardly seeing much of that in the first week or so, to then gradually seeing more and more as presumably more people move over from Reddit.

There are also a number of people who are moderating a large number of unrelated communities, and there are potentially issues with that and their behaviour and motives. There has been at least one support thread about it.

Be interesting to see how instances and communities respond, and if a more firm line will be drawn around these things.

So far so good, I see less toxicity than on big social media. I guess there are not enough people yet, I see mostly enthusiasts who are excited that they're building something new. Perhaps because of that the probability of seeing or getting some unpleasant comments is lower. But I'm also quite picky in what posts I read, something related to Elon Musk or Threads doesn't interest me.

You will find this type of people everywhere on social media.

I use Tildes and is this kind of place people circle jerk how smart and insightful they are using comments. One user had this long threaded comments and I just disagree at the end, he was so pissed. Second time it was with a Redditor coming with the same toxic echo chamber bs bringing to Tildes, my conclusion many redditors are toxic users that will spoil anywhere.

Don't get me started with Hacker News.

Yeah, I got into an exchange the other day where a dozen users made a point of telling me why they support using misogynistic slurs, or how the slur isn't any worse than other impolite words, or how it isn't really misogynistic, or how it's okay when used against evil people.

It was real disappointing, and I'm strongly considering unsubbing the community where the thread took place.

I stay away from the politics related communities. A bunch of people from r/Politics migrated to Lemmy and I’ve received death threats for having the wrong political opinions.

2 idiots got into a "u.no u" fight on one of my threads that escalated into them brigading each other. Even the block feature didn't work for a while.

There are toxic instances and users, but the communities have done a good job of staying focused on staying on topic. So not really any people going off on some personal unrelated tangent screaming on their soap box.

Like the game based communities have focused on talking about games. I've usually avoided and filtered communities that tend to get rather argumentative like politics, and I don't expect it to be any different in that department here from reddit.

My reddit experience was nice too because I stuck to my subscribed feeds and filtered lot of stuff out. Argumentative communities will always be that way regardless of where it exists and there is nothing wrong with that because it is on topic for why it exists . It's an easy unsub and block if I want to avoid it.

I just hope some keyword filtering gets built in soon so browsing /c/all is easier to discover new communities I'm interested in without being cluttered by the ones I'm not interested in. Back on reddit my filtering list was useful, since it led to making /r/all a pleasant one where it was mostly filled with dnd or anime or star wars stuff as opposed to the default politics, Twitter/tiktok/Facebook reposts, and fight and gore clips that dominate it by default.

It’s not really surprising people are having problems with people on lemmy. For the first time in at least a decade we are in the Wild Wild West of a part of the internet. Things haven’t normalized themselves yet so shit is weird and sometimes unpleasant.

i have seen few, but none had interaction with me.

So far, I haven’t encountered anything super negative. Everyone on the instance I picked as my “home” has been extremely friendly. Because of that, I usually just check local activity.

I do, occasionally, check all instances. Even what I see is mostly friendly.

I’ve been lucky, I guess.