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Feel free to highlight people from both reality and fiction - and why they make a good role model.

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[–] partial_accumen 47 points 8 months ago
[–] owenfromcanada 31 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Aragorn from the Lord of the Rings. Kiss your homies on the forehead, then stab a nazgul.

I read an article where the author explained how she felt so comfortable with all the men in LotR because of the healthy portrayal of masculinity.

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[–] morphballganon 28 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Steve Rogers. He tries to see where people are coming from when they disagree. He only kills Nazis because Nazis are bullies; he's not just blindly following orders. He steps into situations out of concern for others' well-being, not as a chore or for self-gain.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Someone said that Steve Rogers real super power was being able to always make the right choice

[–] VaultBoyNewVegas 10 points 8 months ago

I can see that. In the comics that's generally been Caps thing is his unwavering morality.

[–] Zachariah 21 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Mr. Rogers
Steve Irwin
Bob Ross
LeVar Burton
Utah Philips
Thích Nhất Hạnh

[–] [email protected] 9 points 8 months ago (1 children)

When Steve Irwin was alive I thought he was amazing, but then again he died as I entered my twenties... These days when I look back at pictures like this, I do question how much of a 'great guy' he was...

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

That baby is the second safest person in that entire arena

[–] BeefPiano 20 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Ted Lasso is a great portrayal of masculinity

[–] Iceblade02 9 points 8 months ago (5 children)

Is the series worth watching even for someone entirely uninterested in sports?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 8 months ago (1 children)

There's hardly any sports in it, despite the theme of the show

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Absolutely. The soccer/football aspects of the show are really pretty minimal. I didn't go into the show as a soccer fan and really enjoyed it.

[–] Iceblade02 4 points 8 months ago

Guess I'll check it out then!

[–] Wwwbdd 5 points 8 months ago (2 children)

I found it to be saccharine garbage. I struggled through one season because I always heard good things and I truly hated it by the end. It's on the level of Paw Patrol for dramatic tension

[–] BeefPiano 5 points 8 months ago

That actually becomes a plot point for S2 and S3, they explore why Ted is the way it is.

[–] Crackhappy 3 points 7 months ago

Valid, I can see why you think that.

[–] BeefPiano 5 points 8 months ago

Yeah, I don’t like any sports and I loved Ted Lasso. A part of my fondness might be due to the show arriving in the thick of COVID and the Trump presidency.

[–] Crackhappy 2 points 7 months ago

Yep. 100% absolutely. I am also not into sports at all, and honestly I don't even give a crap about the sports part, I care about the fantastic portrayal of what real men are.

[–] Iceblade02 19 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I will also submit Stephen Fry - for afaik being a great guy all around.

[–] Rookwood 5 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

There's a lot of good British comedians who are. Stephen had a cocaine addiction, but he's talked about it openly and his struggle with it.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Bandit, from the cartoon Bluey, is a good role model dad. He has two little girls and he is always playing with them, usually trying to teach them to be better at the same time. He also sets boundaries in a polite and respectful way. He owns up to his mistakes and he doesn’t lie to his kids or manipulate. He knows he’s not perfect, but it doesn’t hurt to try, right? He is also a good husband to his wife Chili. I just wonder how much weed he smokes off screen to be so tuned into the moment.

[–] cucumber_sandwich 4 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I love how everyone in bluey just feels like a person. Like when bandit is sleeping and dreaming of playing football with his mates. In many kids shows parents have no personality beyond being parents. Bluey is different.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

Yeah or Relax and Stickbird where Chili can’t relax her mind, and then Bandit is mulling over something on the beach. Then they get back from their trip in Show and Tell, and suddenly Bandit wants to buy a surfboard. But we all know he probably won’t have much time for it.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 8 months ago (2 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 8 months ago

And indeed his author

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[–] [email protected] 11 points 8 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 6 points 8 months ago (3 children)

Rides motorcycles, skilled with firearms IRL, and all around soft-spoken gentleman. Keanu gets my vote too.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Totally won’t show you his asshole though.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)

That's OK, it's a request not a demand. Maybe I should have put the word "please" in my username.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

If you ask nicely, you might just get your wish 🍑

That’s what my mother used to say anyway. Not sure if she has this in mind though, but who knows?

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[–] Iceblade02 10 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I'll admit, I was stuck on this for a while before posting, trying to come up with a (relatively) recent example.

My pick is Baby from Baby driver (awesome movie btw). It is the story of a young man who partly through poor decisions, and partly through circumstance ends up in bad circles. Throughout the movie, he learns to stand up for himself, what (he believes) is right, and those he cares for.

What I found most compelling however is how he - when faced with a serious choice - takes responsibility for his actions and mistakes, owning up to them and in the process stops the people he cares most about ending up in harms way.

In my opinion, that is perhaps one of the most important parts of being a man, owning and taking responsibility for your actions, even when that may come at a great personal cost.

[–] crypticthree 9 points 8 months ago

Fred Hampton

[–] [email protected] 7 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Uncle Iroh

Dr. K from HealthyGamerGG I think

[–] Everythingispenguins 2 points 8 months ago

I was legitimately sad when Mako died he voice was just so amazing.

[–] username_unavailable 6 points 8 months ago

Wil Wheaton seems like the kind of man I'd like to be. I used to read his blog in like 2004/2006? And the interviews and writing I've seen just confirm he's a better person than me. And to hear what he went through with his family and the way he talks about it, it's obvious to me that either he's received good therapy, had good support around him, or was just naturally adept at emotionally processing and a way I probably never will be even with therapy.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago
[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Noel Feilding

Just seems like a really lovely person

The Totally Made Up Adventures of Dick Turpin is hilariously silly, like most stuff he does

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[–] CyberDine 5 points 8 months ago

Nick Offerman

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago

A young man could do worse than following in the footsteps of Norm Abram.

Master carpenter, published author, avid spokesman for personal protective equipment, accomplished television host and all around stand up guy.

[–] Drivebyhaiku 3 points 8 months ago

Fiction wise - Ted Lasso. The show has a lot of arcs about guys (and gals) struggling with various issues surrounding mental health and everybody evolving into a healthier and more wholesome place. If you want to see guys being absolute Bros and just weep for people being wholesome and cool can't recommend enough.

It starts with the expectation it's just gunna be a inspiring feel good sports story and then just goes so far above and beyond the norm it's practically a new genre.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

Sparrow from Tales of Earthsea

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