Men's Liberation

Can you point at posts that give those vibes?

From the "about":

Non-masculine perspectives are incredibly important in making sure that that the lived experiences of others are present in discussions on masculinity, but please remember that this is a space to discuss issues pertaining to men and masc individuals; be kind, open-minded, and take care that you aren't talking over men expressing their own lived experiences.

The post before this one is about protecting our sons from right-wing radicalization.

From what I've seen, the mod(s) have taken pains to make this not an aLl LiVe MaTtEr sub.

OP's post history is full of concern trolling. Previously, it was trying to stir divisiveness regarding voting. Now it's trying to stir divisiveness regarding this community.

OP says

I simply reply to the sentiment I see on this platform

But I really don't believe them.

I’m an ardent feminist, but I’m not generally going to discuss issues impacting men in feminist spaces. There’s a HUGE difference between men’s lib and MRAs, who are very problematic.

I disagree with you, and I think you need to be specific if you find things problematic.

I do appreciate how you've shared your concern though, it's not accusatory or needlessly confrontational, or calling this group names.

I think we do need to have communities like this, one because we can try to help more than just the most disadvantaged groups, and two because men suffering in silence are fodder for problematic ideologies to take root.

I don't think this is like "all lives matter". This group is not a reaction group to feminism, or a contrasting take, or an "us too" group. The guidelines are that discussion should be intersectional, and the discussions I've seen are more humanist than masculinist (is that a term?).

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Oh wait up, somebody telling us [men] not to focus on their issues, on a site made to talk abouy how man are told/groomed to not talk about their issues and should hide their emotions. Tone deaf much. Had you read any discussions in here you would see it is not anti women, but a safe space for guys.

Dudes, come on - don't feed the obvious troll.

Three options:

1. Don't talk about issues unique to men
2. Do so in feminist spaces, since this is ultimately a patriarchy / gender role issue
3. Talk about them in a dedicated space

1 results in suicide and men going over to alt-right nonsense. 2 results in the womens' spaces being invaded. 3, run effectively, gives men a space to talk without either squashing feminist discourse or jumping into the 4chan/incel cesspool.

Yeah, I get it. It's a really difficult line to ride saying "men aren't doing well" while also avoiding a) comparing the magnitude of men's issues to the magnitude of womens' issues b) minimizing women's issues, c) blaming women, and d) generally coming off as a men's rights douchebag.

I think it's fair to say that as toxic and objectively horrible as the men's rights movement is, there's a need (in, almost exclusively, men) that it's filling. And it's a need that the left isn't filling.

I think to the extent that this community puts men and everyone else on opposite sides, it needs improvement. But to the extent that its focus is men and everyone else against patriarchy (which oppresses everyone at the behest of the 0.1%), it fills a much-needed niche.

I can't say I haven't heard a thing or two here and there that made me cringe a bit and think there was a hint of "part of the problem" in the "part of the solution." But "men's liberation" is definitely a direct response to and in opposition to the men's rights movement and in my mind an overall positive.

Plus, I think part of how the patriarchy is oppressing men in particular is by making/keeping it socially unacceptable for men to discuss their issues. And communities like this one are part of the solution to that issue in particular.

All that said, I haven't been keeping up with this community quite as much lately as I have in the past. So if it's taken a bad turn, I guess it may well be problematic.

Lemmy has this neat new feature you might not be familiar with: to register your disapproval of a post, comment or community, flick your right thumb sharply upward.

You know humans are capable of thinking about multiple issues at once, right? Not to mention, this is a companion movement to the feminism movement, because it’s about stripping away the harmful, outwardly violent and angry parts of male culture. Culture tells men to bottle it, ignore it, don’t feel it, be a man, be dominant, etc. a healthy dose of, “hey, feel what you feel, be healthy, be kind. That’s manly too.” is nothing but helpful to the progress of women’s rights.

How much of feminism is hurt by more sensitive men? None. Opposite. Feminism is helped by men who are told it’s okay to be in touch with your feelings, to be empathetic, to be caring and kind. Because feminism is held back more by angry men and misunderstanding men—and frankly, women who misunderstand feminism—than any movement helping men be okay with themselves. Men who aren’t threatened by stronger women but are actually supportive of that…is not a bad thing for feminism. Like…at all.