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If you would have a threesome, will it be with a girl or a boy and why? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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[–] [email protected] 47 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Neither, I'm not into kids

[–] Sheeple 12 points 8 months ago

The real answer

[–] [email protected] 20 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Why? So I could disappoint two people at once?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

I can barely disappoint one woman, I don't think I could handle two.

[–] TORFdot0 17 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Redditors of Reddit, sex, am I right?

Believe it or not, despite all the furry porn in the all feed. Lemmy isn’t horny enough for posts like this OP

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

I dunno, I see lots of replies here? Being it horny-driven or not.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 8 months ago

Given my life right now, it would have a couple of no-shows.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 8 months ago (1 children)

One of each, please! I'm pan

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

^ I'll have what she's having.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago

I’ve had all combinations of threesomes and concluded the mmf is the most fun

[–] Sheeple 3 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Nonbinary ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[–] [email protected] 14 points 8 months ago

So no sex with 2, 4, 8, 16,... partners for you?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

I like my threesomes lik my computers: binary

[–] Sheeple 1 points 8 months ago

I prefer quantum computers

[–] Carighan 2 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

Definitely a woman, seeing as both my current FwB and me are mostly into women. 😅 (That'd be FFM, for clarification)

[–] [email protected] 0 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Clarifying a cryptic abbreviation with another cryptic abbreviation doesn't really help matters I'm afraid.

[–] [email protected] 20 points 8 months ago

FwB is a friend with benefits, usually of a sexual nature, and FFM means either Frankfurt am Main or a threesome with two female and one male participant.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago

Friends With Benefits

and Female-Female-Male

:))

[+] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (2 children)

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago

I think it needs practice. Live, your first time 1-on-1 probably was a little awkward and not as good as after you had some experience, threesomes probably get better with experience.

I've only had one, and it wasn't that great, but looking back I can see how see how awkward we all were. If we'd done it a few more times, or if one of us had been able to guide activities better, I'm pretty sure it would have been more fun for everyone.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago

Yeah, got talked into it by an ex. Wasn't even really about the awkwardness a lot of people talk about.

For me, it was initially hot but I ended up with a deep, hollow feeling. You have the same lack of intimacy with the third that makes one night stands unfulfilling, combined with this sort of violation of the intimacy you had with your partner. I actually felt a bit sick afterwards.

If it's your thing have at it, there are plenty of different relationship styles and kinks that'd make it much more appealing, but personally I would never consider it again.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

There should be at least one women involved. I don't think MMM is for me.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

Wel I guess I know what I’m doing for Mo’ Muscles Movember this year

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

Both

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

Make it a surprise! More fun that way.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

4some is better, you can go for longer because brakes are possible.

Also never have a 3some with straight people. They have expectations that will never hold up to reality.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago

One another lady I'd say. Easier that way.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 8 months ago

Whatever my partner wants, because I’m asexual and told them if they want intercourse then they’ll have to get it from someone else.

If they actually want three participants, they’ll need to find someone else. I ain’t joining that.