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Why would your best friend or someoneyou mutually considered a good friend suddenly ghost you? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by cheese_greater to c/asklemmy

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Is there a way to figure out if they blocked youon Signal if you can still technically message them?

~~Edit: he seems to have blocked me or hasn't used Signal since a single emphatically non-controversial/non-hurtful comment so he either blocked me or hasn't opened Signal for >month. He's not responding to anything else either so he's either depressed or blocked+done with me.~~

Edit: I'll know when it comes birthday time. I'm not a Bridezilla about birthdays but it would be unusual for him to not wish me one. He's never not done so. I'll have my answer when that happens 🙏 (namaste) If he wants to be a dick about it and leave me in the dark totally those days are fortunatley numbered :/

Edit: we're white and very (North)-American.

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

"Nobody is entitled to your words or actions or time". I ofcourse do not know the full context but that sounds like the porogative of the person the main post is about.

When marching to a just victory be aware of the trail you leave.

I have force quite relationships by pressing x goodbye and i have stopped talking to people. I only regret the force quit cuz i also coulda just not talked to him for a while and he could return someday.then there wouldn't even be any stress.

there are times and places for people also tries to convey die or nothing mentalities may close doors, only to satisfy the need to be recognised.

[–] cheese_greater 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

What I mean is wishing someone a happy _____ is a courtesy we do for each other. I dont consider it something anybody is entitled to or to throw a huge fit if someone doesn't fall in line or reaches out "too late" or whatever. Its never an excuse to be a Bridezilla and people who want to act like that, I simply don't want to be around. Its a very useful heuristic honestly.

We've never had this issue. He wished on mine, I wished on his. End of story. It just happens to be useful because he always has done so which means its a useful indication for what the situation is. If he doesn't reach out, thats the first time ever so thwt tells me this isn't likely a fluke but that he blocked me, he means for me to not be able to contact him, and I have one less birthday + fake friend to need to attend to. Its honestly just as well, I don't want flaky people like that who can't even let you know how they feel and give everyone closure.