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I find the """man up""" school of thought generally works for me when faced w a tough situation but 97% of the time it's presented as an obnoxious show of bravado. What are better ways to phrase this? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 9 months ago by _number8_ to c/asklemmy

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like, if i'm feeling bad but force myself to do something, i usually feel better. how to maintain the usefulness of this advice without presenting it as 'fuck your feelings', in that usual arrogant right wing sort of way

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[–] [email protected] 9 points 9 months ago (2 children)

One thing that I have drawn strength from repeatedly in hard times was drilled into me by a great professor in undergrad (psychology):

You cannot experience personal growth without struggling; without hardship.

Think of the people who are sheltered from the real-world and then get a full dose of it and are unable to cope and preserve like others who had to grow up early.

I remind myself amidst struggles that I will be coming out on the other side a stronger and more capable person. It helps me to accept the shit on my plate and refuse to give up.

[–] Shard 4 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Sounds familiar.

Suffering builds character

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I thought suffering leads to the dark side?

[–] Shard 4 points 9 months ago

Calvin and Hobbes has far superior writing

[–] Jubei_K_08 2 points 9 months ago

Similar quote, from Fight Club of all places 😂 I often hear it in my head when working out:

Without pain, without sacrifice, we would have nothing.