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submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by solomon42069 to c/asklemmy
 

It feels like no matter where I turn some septuagenarian, or older, is making life miserable for myself and others. Usually these are older white Christian conservatives, obsessed with a delusional sense of reality that no longer has a basis in fact, or perhaps never did.

There is a disproportionate amount of wealth concentrated in the older generation and those who will inherit it will probably be even worse with that money than the last generation. Certainly we see evidence of that already, anyone in their 30's who has parents who help them out VS those who don't have that have radically different outcomes. For some reason those lucky enough to come from good families ascribe laziness and bad attitude to those who don't have the family support, as if they are somehow enjoying "self made success" while mummy does their laundry for them.

No generation previous needed this kind of assistance well into adulthood, but this infantilisation of working adults has happened because of the hoarding of wealth, refusing to pass on the torch in workplaces and just blocking change for the sake of stoking petty politics. Most of us will never own our own home but all the politicians want to talk about is whether it's OK to dehumanise trans people or not.

I'm 36 this year. For most of my teens I thought there'd be some kind of tipping point where the conservative boomers would fuck off or at least let the next generation step in, but that hasn't happened. Back in the 1990's you could be a girl and wear jeans and be empowered, now this is considered some kind of woke statement. As if we recently invented this idea of women and men being equal.

The faces of my two dogs, my cat and my husband are all that keep me going. Knowing they need me gives me just enough to get out of bed in the morning and start moving... but I'm struggling to do even that without having a breakdown. My husband and I have medical expenses we can't afford and are borrowing money to survive right now. I run my own business and just feel this immense pressure on my shoulders, that again is compounded by how unfair the world is right now.

Anyone got any advice for coping with this late stage capitalist hellscape?

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[–] themurphy 59 points 8 months ago (2 children)

Like many else suggests: Cut the media. The world doesn't care if you follow it or not, and you'll be much happier all the time.

Alternative, try to follow positive media. I created my own community for this purpose only, called /c/worldinprogress

[–] [email protected] 12 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

/c/worldinprogress

For the lazy: [email protected]

Great idea btw.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)

taps link to what is supposed to be a community about all the good stuff happening in the world

"Error: no posts"

Well, fuck.

Kidding aside, [email protected] probably has what you're looking for

[–] themurphy 5 points 8 months ago (1 children)

There's 8 posts or something, because I just started the community.

And it's not like UpliftingNews, because they focus more on individuals, as this is for general progress in the world.

Hope you'd like it!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

There's 8 posts or something

Weird. I set it to top all and Connect still gives me the no posts error 😔

[–] [email protected] 5 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

You are on a different instance than the community. Because it's a new community it probably just hasn't federated to your instance yet.

Edit: also if you're the FIRST person to access the community on your instance, that should be establishing federation in the first place

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

Ah ok, fair enough 🙂

[–] solomon42069 10 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Already doing this, that doesn't stop my next door neighbour from being harassed by the old couple on the corner. It doesn't stop my narcissist mother from coming to my door even when I tell her I'm going to call the cops. There are real problems beyond people's perceptions and feelings from the news.

[–] [email protected] 24 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

I feel like you've got some other issues going on that you aren't letting any one in on. Statements like "neighbour from being harassed by the old couple" and "stop my narcissist mother from coming to my door even when I tell her I'm going to call the cops" are definitely not normal experiences. I don't think you will find general answers to your original question until you first address these more specific problems head on.