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[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

I have come to terms with the fact that some people are too damaged to be dealt with. Their perspective and handling of life and mine just diverge too much, and any effort spent trying to align these perspectives is bound to cause more hurt.

I think about contacting her so often. Once I got a birthday message from her sister, who she lives with. I mentioned the hurt and why I was not talking to my mother, and got back more of the same emotional abuse. Both aunt and mom are lost, out there with their anger and bitterness, and it's not my job to retrieve them, as much as I would like to.

The fact she turned into a literal nazi in just a few decades (thank you facebook) doesn't help the situation.