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I'll start: if they have hobbies it's a green flag for sure, doubly so if their hobbies are outlets for creativity.

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[โ€“] foggy 16 points 1 year ago (1 children)

It is so close to accurate to say "they accept you at your worst," but we all know the toxic "if you can't accept me at my worst..." Kinda people.

Id say it's more like

  1. History of self advocacy and/or intolerance for their own mistreatment

  2. They accept or at least make an effort to understand you when you're at your low points.

These two together kind of ensure no issues fester or arise in a manner such that they're not dealt with.

[โ€“] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago

It's a bit off-side, but another sad part of this quote is that it actually sounds reasonable in the original context:

I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.

Marilyn Monroe went out of her way to list what she considered her "worst", that is in direct contradiction with the "best" (that everyone could see) from her public persona. She's saying "Here's my worst; you know my best. If you don't accept me for who I am, you don't deserve that sex symbol that I built".

It's a fair cry from how people often use this quote, where they justify making your life a living Hell under the promise of some "best" that you're never going to see.