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Do you have a mantra that keeps you going through tough times? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 1 year ago by tourist to c/asklemmy

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"it do be like that sometimes" is starting to lose it's magic a little

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[–] justlookingfordragon 6 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I made it through 100% of all the bad days, weeks and months in my life so far. I will also make it through the ones that have yet to come.

...and on my more cynical days, this follow-up:

And if, one day, I won't survive a bad day, then it is not my f[%$]ng problem anymore.

I tried to have a more positive mantra, but eventually realized that sheer spite can be a powerful motivator in bad times, even more so than trying to stay "nice" to the rest of the world.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

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[–] cashews_best_nut 2 points 1 year ago

Anger is a really powerful motivator. I spent years of my life trying to shut down my anger from childhood. I had such a violent temper up to my mid-20s. Now I'm 40 and in a complete "dead-zone". No motivation, no drive.

I've found I get most motivated when one of two things happen - I forget to take my anti-depressant for the day or I try to quit vaping. Both these things cause me to get irritable and both cause me to shift and do something.

P.S. Meth also motivates me but that's not a long-term strategy worth pursuing as I'm trying to remain sober.