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Is it wrong for a guy to want equal contribution in a relationship where both people work? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago by [email protected] to c/asklemmy

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Let's say both the guy and girl make the same amount of money and are both good at and enjoy cooking and cleaning.

Would it be wrong for a guy to want the girl to give equal contribution financially to the relationship if he's also willing and capable of contributing equally to domestic duties?

In this same scenario, would it be wrong for him to expect her to cook and clean if he's expected to handle the financial aspects of the relationship?

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Its up to you and your partner to find a arrangement that works for both of you and makes you both happy. It really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.

Expenses equal by amount of contributions

Expenses equal by % of income contributions

Expenses equal by time required to make the money

or any other division of labor and income

[–] Ejh3k 4 points 1 year ago

When my wife and I got together, she made double what I did. It didn't necessarily make me feel guilty or bad, but I definitely felt the need to contribute. So, I took over food. I meal plan, do groceries, cook and clean up for essentially 100% of meals. On a rare occasion she'll want a meal on the weekends that I don't care for and she will buy and cook the meal. I also do 100% of the maintenance outside the house.

In general, she takes care of the big bills and I get the little ones, plus all the manual labor.