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I got accused of rape my junior year of high school by a girl I had never met. She picked me out of the yearbook and made up a crazy story. This dragged on for months, countless meetings with police/principals with no evidence other than her word. Her mother even came into my work yelling and screaming at me, her brother was trying to find me to kick my ass. Turns out the whole time her boyfriend was sexually abusing her. She admits to randomly picking me and making up the whole thing. Pretty fucked up situation to put a random kid in high school through.
Same boat. Got accused of raping and beating my ex, I was in 9th grade. The rumor always lingered and I was treated like a terrible human. I will admit I was a dick, controlling, etc. But I was not a rapist or a woman beater.
In an event that I've told very few, she spoke with me a few years later on the phone (we had a kid prior to this), and she was having troubles with her current dude. She told me she was going to go to an abused women's shelter.... Here we go again...
Now we're older, things are mellow. Wild ride.
In other, related news, our son was accused of sexual assault and became a shut in during his last year or two of high school. He never really left the house, didn't really want to talk to anyone except me... People are evil... Or don't understand the magnitude of false accusations... Or both.
Did you guys have a kid together before the 9th grade or did you get back with her later after the false accusations??
Kid during 9th grade, she was older. We split by her leaving me without telling me and telling everyone that I assaulted her when our kid was 3 mo old.
The conversation of her and her partner having issues was like 5 years later. Through it all, we've remained, for the most part, civil. Couple disputes here and there but nothing that would make good TV.
What a jackass. Ugh. Sorry you had to deal with that.
My best friend had the same thing happen to him in high school. A girl didn't like my friend's gf, so she made up a story about him raping her. Thankfully she eventually admitted it, but it still put my buddy through a lot of mental anguish in the meantime.
Jeez wtf… you might win here.