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How do I avoid becoming a crotchety old man? I’m seriously asking. (self.asklemmy)

submitted 1 year ago by yokonzo to c/asklemmy

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You know the type, probably a good father or worker, but serious faced all the time, never smiles, often in a bad mood, very cynical. It’s just I feel like I’m on the path to this, I’m 28, just escaped 12 years of food service so I’m already super cynical and if someone comes up to me, I’m super ready to shut down whatever’s about to happen. I feel like working with customers for years I’ve learned to have giant walls up and I can’t seem to remove them. I see the other guys in the factory I’m working at laughing and joking all the time, I think of myself as funny but it’s always deadpan humor and I wish I could genuinely smile and laugh and make friends with the other guys. Any old timers or well travelers out there have any advice?

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[–] average650 15 points 1 year ago (2 children)

One thing no one seems to be mentioning, is finding a purpose. A reason that things are worth it even when they aren't good.

What is your reason for living, your hope, even when shit hits the fan?

[–] yokonzo 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My purpose is my art and my animations, only thing is this new job is extremely demanding time and energy wise compared to anything I’ve had, so I barely have time to get home and create anymore

[–] average650 1 points 1 year ago

Does that stand up when everything goes to hell?

[–] GuyDudeman 2 points 1 year ago

This is crucial. Even if that thing is just enjoying a nice walk in the morning or finding the best burger in town or playing pinball. The point is to make yourself have something to look forward to. That’s all that keeps me going.