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I track my mood in a journal and each day and I've given myself four options for my overall mood was for the day. The options are:
Happy Okay Tired Bad
Perhaps counterintuitively, I mark the majority of my days as "happy" for the very reason you've described.
The vast majority of days, I'm not "happy" by most people's standards. I am content. But I think it's actually quite useful to call contentedness happiness.
For me, marking a day as anything other than "happy" requires some negativity to enter and for it to persist long enough that it spoils the overall contentedness.
For example, even if I wake up exhausted, depressed and otherwise miserable, if I take a nice long shower, have a cuddle with my husband and watch a show I love, I might still be able to salvage that day from "bad" to "okay"
I think it's important that people don't treat mood as a fixed immovable state. It's almost always a signal that should be acted upon.
Do you find that a mood journal is helpful? Why do you track it to begin with.
It sounds like a decent idea to simplify it like that. So many days I think that my life sucks when really everything isn't so bad and I am happy quite often.
Only problem if I were to apply your scale to myself is I would mark every other day as tired lmao. Why do you have that one as a separate category if you can be tired while experiencing these other moods?
I use "tired" for any physical stuff that affects my mood, so if I didn't sleep, or I'm sick, or on my period, those are the days I'm most likely to mark as "tired"
I can't remember why I started tracking (I think I was just curious) but I'm going on four years now and it helps a ton with trends and feeling like I'm not just lying to myself when I want to say something like "I've been feeling tired a lot lately"
Like, before tracking, I don't think I was even comfortable saying I experience depressive episodes because I just straight up didn't believe it was that bad, but with real data I'm able to see my "happy" levels declining month to month.
And "tired" is a useful metric in this context because it denotes days that "tiredness" was interceding on my happiness.
For example, let's say I didn't get a lot of sleep. I struggled through the work day. But I went to see a movie with friends in the evening. If I spent a solid portion of my day not aware or caring that I had been tired, I would mark that day as "happy"
But if I was tired in the morning, went to work, came home, lumped around for a few hours and went straight to bed, I'd mark that as "tired" and if over 50% of my month is days like that, I would want to take action.
Because I've had months with 80%+ happy days, so if I'm noticing my happy levels falling (Ie. 60%, 50%, 40%) I want to do something about it. I want to be doing counselling again, or I want to be going to the gym more, or seeing my friends more often.
So I guess for me, tracking helps make mood signals more obvious?
And on a daily level, I think it's also useful to do that little bit of self-reflection. Like, "yeah, there were some sucky things that happened today, but was it day "bad"? Or was it a good day with bad parts?
I'd advocate for anyone to try it, with whatever words/ moods make sense to you.
Thanks for asking too! It's fun to get to talk about it with someone.