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Has anyone here felt hopelessly disenfranchised with life and turned that around? (self.asklemmy)

submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by j4k3 to c/asklemmy

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I'm especially interested in the disabled or people that have to rely on others for support, government or otherwise. Tell me your story if you are up for it. I don't care how old this post is, tell me anyways.

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[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 week ago

I haven't had that issue, but my best friends have. We all have different medical conditions, but it was really mainly an issue of theirs, and they had to go off the societal radar in order to have a family (the child safety agencies are ruthless here). They ended up clandestinely "adopting" four kids who were ten years younger than they are, who are now 20 years old and live on Long Island and who me and my BF have always been acquainted with, along with the best friends.

My life can mostly be described by the opposite; authorities sympathize with me but laypeople (intensely) don't. I navigate this well, though from my experience, it seems to not be a cure, if anything it has been like an ice pack for my issue. It helps I don't have high life goals like the aforementioned friends; I'm afraid of becoming a mom and am just happy to have three "step-step-kids" (BF's ex's kids with another guy) I can call my own (despite actually being my age due to the escalating age gap along the exes) if someone tells me it's 11:00 and asks if I know where my children are.