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I am of the age to have kids, some of my friends have them, but I have mixed feelings about it, just wondering about other people's experiences.

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[–] dingus 13 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

People have told me that I'm good with kids too. But here's the thing...it's actually super easy to give a child attention and follow them around for several hours. I'm not sure why people praise me for it. I guess because some people don't care enough to give the kids the time of day or something?

But the not easy part is the taking care of them eternally thing. Parenting through meltdowns...always being there 24/7/365 with no breaks...having to always feed and clean them...etc. The list goes on.

I know it's dark to say, but one of the things I fear I'd do is end up with one of those parents who is driven crazy and inadvertently kills their child from shaken baby syndrome.

[–] Lennnny 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My husband once said to me, "this is a terrible thing to say, and I don't want you to feel bad, but you do seem like the type who might shake a baby" - I was sterilized by then so it was funny vs insulting.

[–] dingus 3 points 1 day ago

Broo I feel that lol I am probably too mentally unstable for that shit. Who knows, tho.

At least when people only have one child, it almost seems maybe manageable. But people for some reason never seem to stop at one!