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I used to use “gay “ or “ retarded “ as negative adjectives, I no longer do because using someone’s being in a negative light is really mean, and I try not to be mean.
"Gay" was one I never used. "Retarded" is one I don't use any more but still admittedly find kind of funny. I spent a number of years as a kid in the 80s living in New England and for me it will always be "Re-tah-ded."
I miss "Retarded" so much for how it was used in slang but it's pretty irredeemable as a word at this point. Nothing really replaced it as a call-out, which sucks.
Even before it was considered offensive, I generally took the Michael Scott route with the word.
I feel the same about the f-slur for gays. I'm in the LGBT + community and still miss that word too.
There are lots of words one can use: "Wanker", "Idiot", "Dumb-ass".
Would using the term dumb not be just as bad as retarded? Both are medical terms defining issues that people didn't choose.
This is why this is such a stupid thing to get upset about. It's hypocritical to argue against one word and accept the other.
Wanker is the closest in approximate meaning, but I'm not British
If you're British you'll know what I mean. Wanker isn't interchangeable with idiot 100%. There's more... Edge?
Wanker isn't close to retard.
Wanker is someone that is an arsehole. Retard is someone who is an idiot.
So what you're saying is you do agree with my point that there isn't another perfect word for it, since wanker means "asshole idiot"
But isn't using wanker as as insult sex negative?! /s
P. S. I've always wanted to say 'You bloody wanker' after seeing British television as a child but haven't had a chance so far.