Lemmy reacts to a non-sexualized silly outfit pic in a totally normal way…
Previous posts in this series…
- incredible find: https://lemmy.cafe/post/10217719
- epic ratio: https://lemmy.cafe/post/9597634
- lemmy is a worse platform for women than reddit was: https://lemmy.cafe/post/4821164
Women are not a monolith and not all admiration of physical attributes is misogyny.
If you see it as work or effort to not post online about random peoples physical attributes when you see a picture of them, then yea you should look at yourself a bit. It shouldn't feel like you deserve a reward for not being like that.
I don't feel like i diverse a reward, and if the comments are reserved to a place where it's consensual, i don't see an issue. but imagine your picture was being shared online and people who have no idea are, make comments like this about you? wouldn't you feel a bit upset about that?
Yes, that is absolutely unacceptable. But that has nothing to do with your personal situation and I would say it is unhealthy to relate the two.
maybe i just have a different view on things.
You have a common and problematic view of things. You asked if you are doing something wrong, it looks like you probably are. I'd advise you question your worldview a bit and talk honestly with folks you feel you can respect on how they got from where you are to where they are.