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You should share everything with your SO. No. Don't share finances..
Why not? Having two paycheck going into one place seems like it would make things easier, since you’d only have to deal with one set of accounts. And if something happens to your SO, you already have access to the finances and don’t have to worry about getting access while dealing with whatever happened
Have both. Things both use like wifi etc. gets paid by thr joint account, some savings also get placed in the joint account and stuff like fun money stays in both personal accounts.
How much money is put into the joint account can be up for debate (e.g. based on yearly salary 50% of each salary or fixed amount).
This is the way.
My spouse and I make different amounts, but also have different debt situations. We ran all our numbers and each contribute to the joint accounts based on our ability and needs, and in that way we share our living expenses and build collective savings while still having our own separate accounts for our individual spending. Neither of us is policing the other, we can each buy within our means and maintain our individual financial freedom while also tracking and taking care of our shared responsibilities and savings together.
Totally disagree, however it does depend on what stage of life you're on. Straight out of college, sure, married at 50, I would say "no".
I've been married almost 25 years and we've been sharing finances since before we were married, but we both started with nothing, and we both had college degrees and equal paying jobs out of college, so there was no real disparity of finances.
You're with the wrong person then
People can change in drastic ways for unpredictable reasons. At any time.
Fully shared finances can screw you over real bad. Have shared accounts but keep a private one too.