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Is it normal to feel attacked and attack when argue on the internet? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 1 day ago by [email protected] to c/asklemmy

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I rarely feel attacked when I talk with people in person. And we all take people feelings into consideration enough so no one is trying to attack anyone.

I was not actively commenting on social media since I was 13. But when I joined Lemmy i saw the statistics only 1% of people are actively posting and commenting on social media. And since I knew I was in 99% of people who are only consuming and really wanted Lemmy to take off I tried to be more active.

But now I find myself way too often attacked and attacking. And I always judged people that are attacking others on Xitter or Facebook.

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[–] Acamon 2 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Totally agree. Seeing how "Internet like" communication existed before the Internet is always fascinating to me. Whether it's fanclubs, wargaming zines or Enlightened era correspondence, people have had written interactions with effective strangers for centuries. But it was incredibly different before.

The very act of sitting down to write, paying some money and effort to literally post it probably had a huge calming effect on idle bad faith takes. And I imagine that getting a letter with someone telling me names for thinking McCoy is better than Spock would probably make me feel derisively sorry for the poor nerd who went to the effort.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

Yeah, and if you wrote some feedback to a magazine article, the editor might write a response to you and publish both in next month's issue, but that would be the end of it. No one who read your feedback as published in the magazine could respond to you directly - it's not really a conversation, it's slow and limited by the format. You could write another message to the editor responding to their response, but that wouldn't get published in the following issue so at most it would just be a one-to-one communication.

This is very different from writing a post on an internet message board and getting twenty responses from twenty different people in a span of minutes. The closest past equivalent I can think of is literal soapboxing, where you go stand on a street and talk at people walking by, and they can immediately respond to you if they choose - but then that's in person, face-to-face.