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How to find interesting friends as a young adult. (self.asklemmy)

submitted 3 months ago by weeeeum to c/asklemmy

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I have many interests, if not too many. From cooking, woodwork and computers. Many of my friends are academically very successful but are frankly painfully boring and I sometimes feel isolated around them.

I like to cook when they hang at my house, I'll try to teach them how, some basic tips, etc. As soon as I glanced towards them again I realized they walked off.

This summarizes a lot of our interactions. As we get to a topic I understand and can speak passionately about, they sort of turn off. They talk to each other fine, but it's often internet drama, school drama or sports.

I'm not in college\classes and it seems almost impossible to meet others, especially others that are interesting and curious. I find myself bonding most to adults but it's isolating I can't find others my age.

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[–] plaidgeek 6 points 3 months ago

Definitely echo the finding shared interest groups. Lucky for you cooking, woodworking, and computer groups tend to be super prevalent in most places. The one bit of added advice I’d offer that has served me very well is that you don’t need to limit yourself to friends your age. Some of the best friends I’ve ever made were in their late 40s/early 50s when I met them in my early 20s. Not limiting yourself by age of folks opens up some amazing friendship opportunities and it’s awesome to get into conversations with folks that had vastly different experiences than you due to the age difference and you can provide them with some interesting context as well. Good luck out there!