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Thanks. I can't even say that my life was shit back then, I always had a comfortable lower middle class environment, but due to a number of less than ideal family interactions and lack of self awareness (or maybe, just a lack of general maturity), I ended up in that hole. Calling women bitches and every other type of misogynistic name felt like a relief, that I was getting back at who wronged me. Again, when you're in that kind of deluded mindset, it makes sense. I got a girlfriend around 3 years after leaving those groups and I told her about this dark time I had, and I'm grateful that she could see from my actions that I wasn't that piece of shit anymore, she barely even believed that I ever got there.

I understand that not everyone will get out by themselves, some people will need external help, but anyone that feels like that something doesn't feel quite right in one specific post or another, there's hope they might get out of that. Like I said, the main thing that drove me away was that their general, ass-sourced toxicity turned against me because I was a stinky commie, but there were other stinky commies that ate that up and preferred to keep seeing women as inferior.

On that line, the last part is what I felt a lot about myself, I often feared that I would "change too much" or that I "wouldn't be myself" anymore, completely ignoring that I was already different from whatever I was 4 years before that, which was also different from 4 years prior, and so on. Small epiphanies that helped me make sense of myself.