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[–] dingus 7 points 4 months ago (2 children)

I'm probably asexual, so I don't really watch porn. Once in a blue moon I get curious, but it never does anything for me. So there's no point.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (2 children)

Interesting. I consider myself asexual as well but I watch a lot of porn. I enjoy sexual stimulation, I just don't need another person to help me with it.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 4 months ago (2 children)

There's probably gonna be some sort of terminological split in definitions between the two at some point.

[–] dingus 4 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

It's very interesting that you say that because it's one of the reasons why I don't simply call myself "asexual" and why I don't identify with the community.

I remember discovering the asexual community over 10 years ago and being excited that I finally found people that are like me. But then I was immediately met with confusion at how...sexual...everyone was. People would masturbate regularly or even have sex regularly. I didn't get it and it didn't seem to fit to me.

A better descriptor for me would be someone that has a non-existent libido and cannot physically feel sexual pleasure, but that's a bit tmi for a general post.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 4 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 4 points 4 months ago

That sounds quite a bit more narcissistic than just not having any sexual interest in others.

[–] Crackhappy 4 points 4 months ago

I'm quite sexual, but I also have no interest in sexual relations, except with my partner, who is asexual, so now I'm asexual in a way. If I find another partner I'm truly into, then I might have sex again, but I don't really care either way. It's something of an enigma even to me. She encourages me all the time to find another partner again, but the drive just isn't there anymore.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 4 months ago (1 children)

I almost wholly agree with you. Just for me, personally, I do see a “point” in reading/“watching” porn even if it doesn’t get me aroused; it’s a source of entertainment and sometimes an art form, just like any other media. I never can get beyond hot and excited though, so it also doesn’t “do” anything for me.

[–] dingus 1 points 4 months ago

I could see that. Personally, I don't find porn artistic at all, but I actually do gravitate towards sex scenes in shows/movies actually for the reasons you stated!