Language of any kind has always been hard for me, as most languages aren't intuitive and require your brain to be forced into learning often odd and unnecessary rules. My brain hates math, the only language I actually respect and a lot of science is built on complex math and non-intuitive nomenclature. I've been increasingly frustrated by it lately and just need to get this off my chest.

I'm a non-professional and have been studying physics for a long time - Quantum Color Dynamics of late - and almost everything I read and listen to requires my brain to constantly process almost every bit of information from non-intuitive nomenclature to personal made ones. It's frustrating that the most challenging aspect of science (besides the complex math) isn't the concepts (I honestly don't find quantum mechanics to be weird) but rather the scientific community's self-imposed nomenclature made of scientist names or hodgepodge of words.

Worst of all, I've only been able to process science like this as an adult because as a younger student, the subject matter seemed too hard because it was weighed down by both non-intuitive nomenclature and often teachers who barely understood the concepts they were teaching to the extent that they could translate that nomenclature beyond a book's presentation (obviously my own learning experience).

Since I could remember I've loved science and wonder if I might have sought a career in physics, if not for frustrating hurdles like nomenclature, thrown on top of truly beautiful but complex subjects. At least I can enjoy it non-professionally - if only slowly, as I have to process its nomenclature.

Thank you. And with that, back to my particle zoo...

Lately, I've been having a hard time getting doing my hobbies because I've doom-scrolled to bad news, and devastating facts related to the Right (wingers), and a religious majority: Muslims.

I am not going to say EVERYTHING bad I have learned related to the majority of Muslim countries, but I'll say these two: Queers, and Apostates (of Islam), face very harsh stigma, and way-too-often get killed by Zealots. It has been like that for over 40 years.

I've also learned that the Right has gotten more power in some countries like Italy.

I have failed to find ANY positive information, and news about these topics, and because of that I am very worried that the world will become a Right-wing dystopia, and that the problems I have mentioned will never change for the better.

I'm trying to stay calm and hopeful about this, but I feel insecure about things getting better, and I keep stressing about it. I don't know how to help myself right now.

EDIT: forgot to mention that many people (online at least) are being pessimistic about it, which isn't helping me.

cross-posted from: https://sopuli.xyz/post/4578562

My grandmother's sister went into the wheat drying room after hearing noises, assuming one of the kids had gotten in. Once inside, she heard a noise coming from a closet. Upon opening it, she discovered a man pointing a gun at her. The man panicked and shot at her head. He then grabbed her phone and started running out. Just then, everyone came out of their rooms, causing a lot of panic. As he ran towards the door within the chaos, my uncle and I grabbed our guns to chase him. He noticed this and yanked my 7-year-old cousin by the wrist, then jumped over the wall with the kid and escaped into the fields. We couldn't find him.

A few hours later, a ransom call demanded 10 million and insisted not to involve the cops. The father of the kid told him it was impossible to gather 10 million in a hurry. Later, he called the cops. The next morning, the guy called again, agreeing to 4 million and arranging a spot for the exchange. He told the father to come alone.

The next night, they managed to gather around 500,000 and went to the spot, the father and uncle, with the cops following and cutting off access to areas. There, the guy took the money and pointed to a figure in the dark, claiming that was the child, and then rode off.

Luckily, it was indeed the kid. Three hours later, we received a call from the cops that they had caught the guy. I forgot to mention that the cops were this efficient because the family knew all the political leaders of the area and had some ministers in their pockets.

We went to the station to check on the situation, and they had beaten the guy up pretty badly. It turns out we knew the guy; he happened to be the son of the land caretaker and had been the family's driver for a few years. His original intention was to steal some stuff from the house, but once he got caught, he improvised. His motivation was the fact that the family of the woman he wanted to marry asked for a 400,000 dowry, and he couldn't afford that.

I made this banner; but I can't use it until the image upload restrictions are lifted.

So I stopped generally using Reddit after the whole API thing but my husband still does and we talk about stuff since Lemmy gets the job done.

One thing he likes is to hop on r/freecompliments and participate there.

Well, today he got permanently banned. Why? Because a bot dredged his profile and found that he sometimes participates in porn subreddits. Usually to complement people there, never posting himself. He's pretty ace, so it's rarely, if ever, sexual. But that was enough for the bot to ban him.

They sent a message about how they are sfw subreddit and don't allow users to participate in NSFW subreddits.

He's heartbroken about it. He really likes to be nice to people and it makes his day when they respond to him. Now he can't do that in a sub that's meant for it.

I feel like the site rules have opinions about banning like this, but it's not like the admins give a fuck. So fuck those mods and their puritanical bullshit making at least once persons day worse, for the low cost of a user that was participating in good faith.

And since I'm on a roll, fuck spez

I tried posting this to trueoffmychest to dredge some sympathy for him, since that seemed appropriate and he was good with it, but they don't allow 'anger' or 'impersonal' posts and that got quietly removed immediately. So fuck them too. I didn't realize how far down the shitter reddit has gone.

1. Your account is defined by your email address
2. Your email address is unchangeable
3. You can create a new account with a new email address, but you can't re-register the same printer, because it was already registered to your old email address

This means you can be locked out of registering your printer. Why are all printer companies the stupidest companies ever?

I don't know how I got this job, sure it doesn't pay the best in the field, and you need lots of specialized training, and with that training you can go to much more prestigious work, but it pays enough. I don't know why the previous person to do it left (the commute was too much for her, but I would've moved closer if I was her). She trained me very briefly because I knew most of the ins and outs already, she told me the boss had been in and out of remission with bone cancer, but the last flair up was taken care of years ago.

It's been 7 years since he was first diagnosed, and he's had 2 replacements, they won't do a third. He doesn't want to try the experimental treatments because he'd rather enjoy the time he has.

I've worked for him for 3 years and I feel so greedy wanting to scream at him to try every avenue available. He has 3 amazing kids, a wife and in-laws who live him, he loves coming into work, he just finished renovating his forever home. And I don't want a different boss. I need more time with my mentor, my friend, the best boss I've ever had.

I just learned this morning, and it's really raw, I need to get it off my chest, I don't want to steal time from his family, but I want to take from him as much as I can. He's a genius in the field, the person he's trying to get to replace him is remarkable younger guy, but he's my age, he doesn't have the life experience that I've found myself looking to my boss for.

Fuck cancer.

Thanks off my chest. Hug your loved ones. Tell your dog they're good, scratch your cat. Enjoy the moments of extra nice weather.

Apollo is limited to five events, which I've exhausted for FFXIV community events. Now I just want a reminder to bump my Disboard and FFXIV Community Finder, since I always forget. I've tried a bunch of bots to no avail, and I keep coming back every once in a while to try to find a solution again.

I don't need a million billion paid subscriptions in my life, especially for Discord bots for one server. Wish I could just stick with Dyno and Ser Aymeric for everything, yeah? I'll pay premium for Aymeric for birthdays and for monthly recurring events/reminders features, because Aymeric and its devs deserve it.

Edit: Also I refuse to rely on Google Calendar, so that's a good chunk of bots I refuse to use.

It's also not even the cheapest. A lot of food at ALDI is both cheaper and of a better quality.

Edit: I like the alternate opinions, like where people say what things in Great Value they still like. We do still buy a few Great Value things, too!

Somehow I was unaware until school started this week that the state I live in, Indiana, passed a law this year requiring the school to REPORT to the parents if a child requests to be called by a different name or gender pronoun than they registered under…and the parent has to give written permission for the school to use said name or gender pronouns. This has put a ridiculous burden on the teachers, of course. Today I got an email notifying me that my son, Ben, would like to be called Ben and not Benjamin. I signed a form. Thousands of other parents will do so as well.

This is absolutely fucking ridiculous in so many ways. The pursuit of eliminating trans people at all costs has gotten so out of hand. This is some Taliban shit.

Please…for fuck’s sake call my kids whatever they want to be called, have drag queens read to them…teach them that slavery was bad and gay people exist. Let the teachers teach. Help my kids to be smart and kind and call it a day…I trust our public school system. This is so infuriating.

To the people passing these laws, I hope your children and grandchildren are ashamed of you and put you in a shitty nursing home and never visit you…and then you die (of old age) and the next generation is better. This is disgusting.

Wtf is up with the constant Temu ads??? Does anyone actually buy from them? For a company to stay afloat selling $3 pants and $4 sneakers I assume all of it must be made out of construction paper and assembled by enslaved orphan children... How could it possibly be anything besides a scam???

I hate her. I've always been understanding of her. I've always understood the reasons behind her behaviour. I've always been patient with her..... But honestly, why should I? She gaslights me and my sister. She tries to manipulate us. She guilt trips us. She screams at us, she used to beat us.... She has a shitty married life. I understand that. I understand the pain that she went through as her husband cheated on her. I've always tried my best to support her. I've listened to her rants. I've consoled her, what have I not done as a son? I've done my duties as a son. I couldn't top the classes. I couldn't do well in sports, she never allowed me to do what I wanted to do. I couldn't excel in the fields she wanted. Isn't that the only pain i gave her? That she couldn't brag in front of her colleagues and friends about how her son is playing basketball on national level?

I wasted two only my most crucial academic years when I opted for biology instead of math. I said I wanted to become an architect, but coincidentally, her niece is also an architect. She was for some reason afraid that her niece would ruin my career so she refused to let me pursue that field. I fought again three years later to become an architect. This is the first time I've done something that goes against her.

I ruined my mental health in order to help her. I would listen to her shouting for hours and then calm her and console her. I'm so ruined that a squeak at night makes me think she's shouting again. I can't sleep properly. Even then, I've tried to get her medical help. I tried to convince her to go to a psychiatrist. But she won't. She starts shouting that everyone thinks she's crazy... Like yeah, you are crazy.

She doesn't acknowledge my sexuality. When i tried to tell her, she so surely called it a mental illness and whoever does that is "sick and disgusting". She doesn't allow me to get out of her image of what a man should be. I can't wear a necklace cause "it is girlish". I can't get my haircut in a certain way cause it's girlish. I have to walk like a man, talk like a man. I just can't do anything! And if I try to do it, she might find out I'm gay! And if she finds out, she'll tell everyone and check my phone and think that I'm in contact of bloody terrorists.

I've tried understanding her, I've tried helping her, I've tried sympathising with her. Has she done that for me? I've upheld my responsibility. I've never made her feel bad for what I've done. Why does she make me feel bad for what is supposed to be her responsibility? Giving money for my education, was her responsibility. Giving me clothes, food, etc was her responsibility. When i tried coming out to her, her responsibility was to make me feel comfortable. She was supposed to support me. She has always made me feel bad about thing I've never had a control on. My large foot (yes she doesn't like that my feet are large), my height which stopped at 5'11, even my darker skin colour. She used to beat me and scrub me so hard that my skin would peel. In her mind, i was dark cause I didn't bathe properly.

Oh, and she's sexist to her own daughter..... She's a female, my sister is a female, yet she discriminates against her. And she thinks she's making me feel good by putting myself before my sister. She has also ruined my sister's relationship with me. Even though, again and again, I've told her to not put me before my sister, to not compare her with me, to not make her feel like that..... She continues it. I've tried many times to tell my sister that I don't agree with our mother but our mother..... She always ruins stuff. She berates her when I'm not around and by the time I find out, the damage is already done. She's fucked up as hell. Her family also blames us for her dysfunctional marriage. They also guilt trip us. They used to blame us when we were like 10 and 6. Her entire family is fucked up.

Yeah..... I hate her. I hate her. I'll always hate her. Anyways, thanks for reading my rant.

Recovering from addiction to cigarettes and alcohol is no problem 85% of the time but being around people that don't seem to be able to socialize without these things always rekindle the desire in me. Don't want to become a hermit as I love socializing but do people really need these things to relate to others?!?!

(The image; a.k.a. the linked comic's last panel)

They make me feel more present and alive, too. I love to go out walking in the rain any chance I get, and reflect on life.

If you want to talk about religion, atheism, or agnosticism in a public, semi-anonymous internet community such as Reddit/Lemmy, you'll want to have thick skin. Sadly my skin is not as thick as I'd like.

Oh, and as an ex-Christian, I still use Christianity as a frame of reference a lot— especially when criticizing American "Christians" for their lack of empathy when a good chunk of their own book states they should be otherwise. But then because I brought up Christianity but didn't explicitly say it was wrong and/or evil, I get shit on pretty quickly. Then people literally try to tell me I'm lying about being an ex-Christian, including on Lemmy. People are... sad.

And I want to buy and own individual songs. The latest one was all live footage and "influencery"; and each time you played a song, you had to pay. It was literally the cheapest, greediest, most pandering "Guitar Hero" one could have made.

It's battle passes all the way down.

Been worrying a lot about the world, my country, and my life lately. Feel like everything's going to hell fast.

The other "Off My Chest" communities are dead, so let's build this one! <3

Like I just spent a few hours blocking the communities and now that they are gone its refreshing but it is frustrating to even have to do so in the first place.

Most of the porn on reddit was stolen anyway or self-promo from the onlyfans crew. I believe pornography is extremally exploitive and while some "creators" really enjoy it I think that most do it for money.

Makes me sad that it is such an important thing for most people on the internet

I relate a lot to Angus, myself.

R.I.P. Chester Bennington.

Also I love Fort Minor (a one-album, multi-artist project where Mike Shinoda was a lead rapper).

I really wish Nintendo stress-tested their gamepads more. Then again, the Switch was rushed to make up for the failing sales of the Wii U.