dingus

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[–] dingus 3 points 6 days ago

I don't eat them for flavor, but I eat them because I'm a lazy ass motherfucker who doesn't feel like removing them from my food. So I just eat them. Why not?

[–] dingus 1 points 6 days ago

Add me to the unwashed bedsheets club lmao

It's just so much of an ordeal imo

[–] dingus 3 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Is it the salsa con queso or just a plain cheese? Because for some reason the salsa con queso jars are like crack to me. I can eat a whole jar in maybe 2 days, so I only purchase it very sparingly lmao.

[–] dingus 15 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago)

In my experience, people do sometimes do what your husband says. Not everyone, obviously, but a lot of people really are shitty. So I get that to a degree.

A thing I do actually is that when I'm the first car sitting at a red light and my intention is to turn right, I actually explicitly do NOT use my turn signal. I use it in every other scenario except this one. Because I've found that if I use it, I run into the occasional asshole that decides to blare his horn at me for not immediately turning right and getting into an accident with oncoming traffic. When they don't know whether or not I'm turning or going straight, they don't honk at me like an asshole.

It's not that I never make right turns on red, it's that I just like to make sure it's safe to do so. I watch oncoming traffic and check the crosswalk for pedestrians. If there is an obstruction to view of traffic (happens occasionally at certain intersections), then yeah I just wait for the green light. But inpatient dipshits don't give a shit because it took them an extra 3 seconds to get to the grocery store.

[–] dingus 11 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (3 children)

Granted I'm a lifelong loner but...how do you deal with this? I don't know for sure, but I don't think I could ever have a partner who drives so egregiously dangerous. Not only is it dangerous, but it also indicates a severe lack of empathy for other human beings. I don't know how I could reconcile a severe lack of empathy in a partner like that.

I guess it depends. Does he tailgate out of aggression or because he's not paying attention? Not that one is necessarily better than others, but the intent is different. One just implies stupidity while the other implies lack of empathy.

[–] dingus 2 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

What you and others feel and experience is valid. It just became a way for me to feel further alienated from the human race knowing that I didn't fit in with the vast majority of asexuals either.

One interesting thing I've found is that those in the community are hell bent on defining every single facet of themselves. It becomes a mess and ends up imo not overly helpful for some of us. With others you just have terms like "gay" or "straight" and leave it at that. I've looked up all the definitions before but haven't found them useful. It just made me feel further alienated from the human race seeing as I do not even fit in with the asexuals either.

I think I just have a problem with the term "asexual". Just look at the breakdown of the word: "a-"-"devoid of" "-sexual"-sex. To me, looking at the word implies a total lack of desire for sex, both in terms of libido (with the self or with others) and sexual/romantic attraction to others. In practice, this is NOT what it means to be asexual. I do understand that this is not what it means for a majority of asexuals. But in that case, I wish they could have picked a different term to claim.

Not sure if the downvotes above are from me somehow offending asexuals. I don't really see how what I said is overly offensive. Sex and romance are absolutely ubiquitous. I'm surrounded by said media every single day...music, TV, movies, books. And I cannot relate to any of it. I remember being excited the one day I thought I finally found others like me, only to be disheartened by the fact that the vast majority of them are still not like me. It is alienating.

[–] dingus 1 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I had never heard of this before. I googled it and I don't really understand what it is.

[–] dingus 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (6 children)

Edit: I'm guessing all of the downvotes are from asexuals I've offended somehow? I don't really get how my personal experience of feeling not quite human is somehow offensive. Romance/sex are literally ubiquitous in media...almost every song, book, movie, etc. involves them in some manner or another. To not be able to relate to something that's literally all around me every single day makes me feel less human than everyone. And to then not be able to relate to the asexual community makes me feel even further away...


Sometimes I feel like I am a different species of being that isn't quite human. I lack a very core set of feelings and sensations that 99% of humans seem to feel and experience. Not in terms of empathy or compassion or anything like that, so I don't think I'm a psychopath, just a bit different...

I've found there are others out there like me, but so rare that I've not met another in person.

For the curious, I'm likely to be considered to be on the asexuality spectrum. But the confusing thing to me is that many asexuals I've spoken to or read about online still seem to experience their own form of attraction and their own sexual urges. So I still don't relate to the majority of them and I find it confusing why they all still consider themselves to be asexual.

[–] dingus 4 points 1 week ago

Wow, I've never seen a North Korea apologist before. This is honestly pretty interesting.

[–] dingus 7 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Yeah, I'll be honest and say that I do not understand what it means to be transgender. And I will never understand. It doesn't matter how many trans friends I have or how many times people try to explain it to me. I won't ever fully get it.

But why in the ever living fuck should it matter whether or not I get it? Just let people live how they want to live!! I don't understand why it's so complicated for Christian fundies to understand that. How in the world are trans people harming anyone by existing? You don't have to "get it" to understand that people just want to live their fucking lives in peace.

One of the biggest things people bring up is the sports issue, like you said. To people's credit, I actually don't think there's a great solution to the sports problem. But pro athlete trans people make up only a tiny fraction of trans people so I don't understand why it should randomly be used to invalidate all trans people.

[–] dingus 5 points 1 week ago

There are many who defend family no matter what

Yeah, I really don't like this point of view. Unfortunately it exists out there, but it at the very least does not seem to be as common online.

One of my closest friends is like this, and I really don't get it. Imo people with this point of view have often not seen the more damaging side of some human beings OR they seek validation too much to be able to shun those who deserve it.

We only have one life on this planet. It doesn't make sense to remain in a relationship with someone if it's hurting you.

[–] dingus 6 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I have a parent who is still living, but that I don't have the best relationship with. He was an abusive husband, but I still see him occasionally and speak to him over the phone. Currently, he lives across the country and likes to talk about moving close to me when he retires within the next couple of years or so. It sounds bad to say, but I kind of hope he dies before that happens instead.

My mom is a wonderful person, and it always makes me feel some type of way with interacting so much with the person that harmed her for so many years.

Many years back when I was in my late teens, my dad threatened to kill himself over finding out my mom had evidently been cheating on him. I honestly thought it was hilarious and I just went to college as normal that morning, not caring whether or not he was actually going to kill himself. I wasn't sure if I'd come back and he would be dead, but I didn't really care at the time.

I don't know if it makes me a bad person, and I guess I don't know for sure that I would feel relieved if he died. But I think I probably would.

 

Whenever I come across a song with specifically rapidly switching and ping ponging or warbling right/left effects, I get chills. But it's hard to find exactly what I mean.

The only two songs that I know of that exemplify this are:

  • Such Great Heights by The Postal Service
  • Slow Me Down by Emmy Rossum

I heard the latter song first and I'll never forget that moment I was sitting in front of the stereo and hit play, not knowing what to expect. I kept repeating the beginning of the song over and over again to hear that effect in the intro, amazed at what my ears were hearing.

There are a few more songs I've listened to that do this, but I've lost them and can't remember what they were called sadly. I've been combing through my music library but haven't found them again.

An example of songs that do NOT fit this criteria are Left and Right by Charlie Puth or Runaway by Kanye West. I don't really care that the lyrics switch ears. It doesn't provide that indescribable experience that the songs I posted above give.


I'm finding that this is such a hard thing to Google. A lot of people link to songs simply with "right left stereo effects", but I'm looking for something more specific as in the above. I'm specifically looking for rapid right left switching effects, and NOT just instruments occasionally played in a different ear.

My genre of choice is pop/EDM and modern pop, but I'm open to others. Thanks all, I'd really appreciate it.


Edit: Sorry I haven't been keeping up with the responses, guys. There are so many songs to wade through. Thanks!

 

Hi all. Apologies if this isn't the right community for this type of question. Just let me know and I'll remove it.

Recently I've been struggling a bit. There are a few people in my life right know who I care deeply about. They are going through some very rough times right now. (Ex: money issues, sick relatives, etc.)

I am very frustrated because I hear about what's going on all the time and I am powerless to do anything to help. The advice I've had in the past is "just be a friend and be there for them," but there is only so far I am mentally and even physically able to go with that. All I want to do is to fix it and make it better for them but I can't.

And it's been making me go a bit crazy tbh. It's pretty narcissistic of me to be reacting this way, but I can't help it. I don't tell these people that I am stressed out because of them and I don't tell them that it is affecting me in any way. It's such an asshole move for me to be feeling this way but I just don't know how to get out of it.

I try to be nice and friendly all the time, but it's killing me. I just want to be able to help but I can't. I'm completely and totally powerless.

Surely there are those of you out there who care about others and have run into this issue before. What the actual fuck am I supposed to do? "Just be a friend" doesn't help my mental state or do anything for any of the issues that any of us have.

Thanks all.

 

Hi all.

This happened several months back as well in June. However, at the time, I had an incredibly old water heater that had not been serviced. I replaced it due to its incredibly advanced age (not due to the smell) and the smell eventually went away.

But this week I noticed my water has suddenly developed the same smell again. However, my new water heater is only a few months old. Surely it doesn't need to be serviced already? It is still outputting very hot water. I have it set to 130F, which is above the temperature that it was set at by default. (I think when I got it, it was set to 120F at first, which I found too cold. So I upped it not long after).

ALL faucets and things with a water supply within the home (ex toilets) exhibit the smell when the water is running. It is not limited to one spigot, floor, or room. Hot water makes it worse (as in showering), but I still notice it with cold water (as in flushing the toilet or room temp water from the tap...I can't get my water super cold where I live though).

The smell reminds me of when I used to swim in a lake or pond. It doesn't smell like sewage and it doesn't smell like fish, but it is not overly pleasant.

Is there a way I can investigate this easily enough without hiring a plumber? And how can I tell if it's safe to drink.

I have city water, NOT well water.

Thanks all.

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by dingus to c/homeimprovement
 

I know this is a cleaning request than a home improvement one, but I would appreciate some advice.

Some months back I moved into a place where the only carpet is located on a staircase. The carpet is thick and maybe considered to be medium to high pile??

The entire time I've lived here, I've struggled to figure out how to clean the damn stairs. The carpeting seems to be a magnet for every particle of dirt and strand of hair.

I have a full size vacuum with a hose. The hose doesn't actually seem to vacuum up anything from the stairs and the main part of the vacuum is too large to use. So the vacuum does fuck all for it.

I'm thinking I maybe need to use something like a wire bristle brush and a lint roller to actually remove dirt and hair??? Is there a best methodology for something like this?

Also of note...I was gifted a Bissell Crosswave recently. It doesn't seem like it would work well on thick carpeting, but I'm wondering if there's a technique where I could maybe use it for that???

I appreciate any advice! Thanks!

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by dingus to c/voyagerapp
 

Somewhere within the last few updates, it seems that haptic feedback has been added to whenever you swipe over a post.

I know a lot of Apple users were asking for this, but I really don't like it as an Android user who doesn't have haptic feedback for apps normally. It's annoying for my phone to be vibrating every 2 seconds when I'm doing things. Is there no option to turn it off?

Thanks! Loving the work you guys do!

 

I am having some family members visit my place for the first time since I moved in and I'm pretty excited. It's a small thing, but yeah. I have a tendency to work most weekends because I don't have a social life so it's a nice change of pace. Do any of you get to do anything fun? Hooe your Friday goes well!

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by dingus to c/general
 

I know the question is a bit vague, but I'm hoping people will interpret this however they see fit an give their own experiences.

To be honest, I'm struggling a bit with this right now and would enjoy reading others' experiences.

 

Very bizarre! Never had that happen before!

 

Hi all! Don't kill me but I'm a heathen that just uses a Keurig. I recently got a new one that has an automatic milk frother and it's been fun to use with regular milk.

I think milk has been hurting my stomach though so I thought I'd use a milk alternative. Supposedly alternative milk types can froth, but I found out the hard way that it is dependent on brand, water, and fat content. I've heard of milk alternatives having special "batista editions" that will froth up better, but I'm unfamiliar with what those are.

I tried picking up some almond milk at my local Aldi and it doesn't froth at all.

Are there some more readily available and prominent brands out there that I can pick up that will froth? I have access to Publix, Aldi, and Walmart. I do NOT have access to places like Costco or Trader Joe's. I am not picky about what kind of milk alternative it is at the moment (oat, almond, soy)...I'm just looking for a type and brand that will actually froth.

Thanks all!

 

I am no longer able to log in or view any content with wefwef. I deleted the app and tried to navigate to the website with my phone.

I am technically able to access the website, but any attempts to login in say "connection error". Any attempts to view posts say "problem fetching posts". I have tried multiple instances and none of them work.

Is anyone else having this issue? I am an android user. Thanks.

 

I moved into a place with one very hazy window screen that is difficult to see through.

I have tried scrubbing it with a brush with soapy water and blasting it with the hose. But I cannot get rid of the hard material buildup. I even tried dipping a brush in CLR and scrubbing the screen.

When I Google how to clean a window screen, I just run across people telling me to do what I already tried. But I think the people touting these methods simply have screens with dirt in them.

This doesn't seem like simple dirt buildup. I enclosed a close up photo of what it looks like.

I bet if I poked all of the holes individually with a toothpick I could clean it, but that would take eons. Any advice? Thanks.

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